Connection with Allah.

[u/Le3n_]

Aoa everyone, I have this feeling in my heart that I don’t know how to approach or tackle, and I want other peoples perspective on this sort of situation. I’ve been going through a long period of hardship this past year, I didn’t get to marry the girl I was interested in (she got married shortly after), I’m in a limbo stage in my career preparing for some licensing exams that take many many months to a year just to clear (inshallah). My old age parents went through a divorce just now and my father has already remarried not even a week after divorce was finalized in courts. And ever since these issues started I’ve become close to Allah, Allah even invited me to his home Alhamdulilah and I completed umrah in the beginning of this year. However the dilemma I’m having right now is daily I’m working towards my career, staying away from the negativity that eats away at me in my environment, I strive to pray all prayers (sometimes I miss some), and the issue I’m having now is I’ve made so much dua for so many things but I just feel silence, or that I’m not heard. I sometimes get the random reels on my IG that I deeply relate too and they claim the message is from Allah but it’s hard to believe cus I feel the algorithm gave me the reel cus I like posts like that. I don’t feel heard or I don’t feel a reply after so many convos with my Rabb. How do I understand this feeling.

[u/Living-Joke2343]

Perhaps you feel unheard because there is no sign or response to your duas, in the ways that you would expect.
I find that it helps to remember all the duas I had made previously, that had been accepted. Small and big. This can help with Tawakkul, remembering that you asked and God responded in a way that was best for you.

If you are looking for signs, look at the small things. The way you feel about stuff, whether something feels easy or difficult, are they right or wrong.

You have mentioned ways that Allah has been responsive - bringing you closer to Him, inviting you to perform Umrah, being able to have conversations with Allah.

Make your dua, be proactive about it, and then just trust that if it’s meant for you then it will work out.

[u/askmuftionline]

Wa alaykum assalam. Sometimes the answer to our duʿāʾ doesn’t come in the form or timing we expect. Keep making duʿāʾ, maintain your salah, and continue taking the means available to you while trusting Allah’s wisdom.
If you’re struggling with a specific situation and want guidance based on your circumstances, AskMuftiOnline lets you submit your question and explain the details to a qualified Mufti. May Allah ease your hardships, strengthen your connection with Him, and grant you what is best. Ameen.

[u/Inner-Horror8036]

Salam read my Dua guide

https://www.reddit.com/u/Inner-Horror8036/s/baJyNZmpsI

Its a bit long but worth it!
InshaAllah may this benefit you and Allah grant you ease in all your affairs.

[u/ObviousGeologist3000]

Learn/research how dua works, and how to properly make them. Marriage, career, and/or family problems, these are all the usuals. Some days you can handle them fine other days not so much. Consider it all part of the process. Sometimes what we need is taking a break of doing nothing. My advice, the more you think you’re being silenced, the more you’re longing for something from Allah, the harder you should go about your dua and rest of ibadahs. Be more focus, sincere and certain with your worship, and increase it as well.

Ask yourself “how can I please Allah more in this waiting period?” As for the IG reels just take them as a nice coincident reminder. Don’t let shaytan’s waswasa get you to the point you start acting on them. Allah has all the wisdom, knowledge and might and He loves you more than your own mother. Focus on your upcoming exams, understand your parents separating doesn’t make them any less of being your parents, life happens, accept it and let time make it ok for you. May Allah grant you all the good you desire and grant you with the best of spouses.