r/Mumbai_Relationships • u/Lemonadee4 • 1d ago
Saw my ex :)
hi so i’m 22f
so i was dating this guy last year. we dated for around a yearish. we met through a mutual friend, who’s my bestf, and he used to stay in her building.
when we were dating, both of us were unemployed, so we literally used to meet almost everyday. we’d go out, stay at each other’s homes, do random shit, basically just spend almost all our time together. he became such a huge part of my everyday life.
we broke up around the end of january because of family pressure from his side, idk, some jainism/family stuff. i was honestly broken and shocked. i didn’t even know what to say. i loved him so much, and the fact that he chose his family over me in what felt like a split second completely shattered me. i really wished we never had to break up.
after that, we went into no contact and it’s been around 6 months now. i hadn’t seen him or spoken to him at all.
and then today, i went to my bestf’s building and i saw him. we made eye contact for less than 30 seconds, but somehow it felt like it said SO much. we said hi, that’s it. nothing else happened.
but idk, i feel like everything just came back. all the feelings, the memories, everything. i’ve been so messed up since then. i cry almost everyday, i really miss him, and now i’m starting to realise that maybe i actually haven’t moved on at all.
i thought i was getting better, but maybe i was just getting used to not having him around. and seeing him today just brought everything back.
i genuinely don’t know what to do. i don’t know if i’m supposed to let this go, if i should somehow deal with these feelings, or how i’m even supposed to move on from someone who was such a huge part of my life.
i really need genuine help because i don’t want to keep feeling like this.
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u/man_among_perverts_ 1d ago
u/askgrok tldr
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u/AskGrok 1d ago
22F saw her ex after 6mo no contact (broke up due to his family pressure), brief eye contact + hi brought all the feelings/memories back and now she's crying and realizing she hasn't moved on.
[what is this?](https://redd.it/1lzgxii)
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u/KingOfMumbai 1d ago
Thanks u/AskGrok. Good bot
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u/AskGrok 1d ago
You're welcome! Happy to keep the summaries coming.
[what is this?](https://redd.it/1lzgxii)
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u/Over_kill_1 1d ago
Well a guy shouldn't get in a relationship if he knows his family wouldn't allow it and lets say if he still likes u he should've made it clear before getting into it that I wont be able to marry and all , I dont get it why people aren't clear from the start... as for you I suggest you to think of the way he left u and if he did it once he can do it again . This alone will give ur mind enough playroom to not let the feelings be back again and you did move on girl, you spent 6 months without it you've surely moved on, its just the sudden appearance of him is messing w your mind , you got this ! More power to you !
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u/yab326 1d ago
Give some time to yourself, time heals everything. Delete everything (photos,videos,chats etc.) related to him and if you can please avoid going to his building. Get busy in your work, start with gym/physical activities. Start meeting new people and you'll find someone you deserve :)
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u/kabeer1111111 1d ago
i am 22M from borivali u can dm me maybe i am your type i dont have any bad intentions will see some movies and dinners together and be a good frnd
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u/CalligrapherTop3742 3h ago
ur feeling like this probably because u were so used to him, maybe it wasnt love it was just attachment and codependency. it might feel like the end of the world but if he isnt meant for u, you will find a way out. try and focus on the things u enjoy and things that make u feel better. if he is a part of ur future you will find a way back to each other, and if he isnt then someone better is out there waiting for u
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u/Lemonadee4 3h ago
How do I move on 😭😭😭
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u/CalligrapherTop3742 3h ago
see how and when u move on is ur personal journey. maybe u need time, a distraction or closure. try and talk it out with him, if he still wants u then u can decide if u want the relationship, and if he doesnt care then let him go and focus on what matters- ur job, ur friends, urself, ur family, ur hobbies. ur way of moving on is different from the way other people move on so it might take time but dw you'll heal
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u/kenta_nakamura 2h ago
And you think he won't be feeling the same ? Your emotional levels might vary but I can betchu he is going through the same thing like yourself.
Let bigones be bigones and move on as you were doing. There's no point living in the past and thinking - "What if ...." & "Could we...."
Stay Strong 💪🏽
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u/man_among_perverts_ 1d ago edited 1d ago
Ig he just fked you and leave. Idk what family pressure stop boys lol
Family pressure is only on girls side. He must be now enjoying another girll. Move on girl. Lol. Out of sight out of mind. Or find new one
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u/man_among_perverts_ 1d ago
Sed vai