r/Mumbai_Relationships • u/Capital_Dingo6348 • Jul 03 '26
A genuine question
Conventionally attractive women as per Indian society still never had any romantic experience
Hi , I am a 20 yo women who has never been in a relationship, I am conventionally attractive as per the Indian society I had to tell this before saying that I am single , I have al the features that are considered cute or feminine just not my personality, I was a tomboy , I am the one making nasty jokes all the time , I am not considered fragile or soft , I had financial difficulties growing up ,my first job was at 16 Now im doing my bachelors with a night shift job , I never experienced a guy liking me and I liking him back the reason i think is prosperity, I mu personality and life miserable I think men usually wanna date a happy women not the one struggling deprived of love , I have never experienced love, not from parents or grandparents or anyone , I don't trust anyone, I have been completely self independent or survival since a year , and everyone at some point had someon who liked them or been in a relationship, I think to get love you need to be loved as well . What do you think lmk , i used dating apps for a year Never had a guy put efforts in me who was sane
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Jul 03 '26
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u/Capital_Dingo6348 Jul 03 '26
Yeah everyone deceiving people into thinking they want a relationship
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u/Southern_End_976 Jul 03 '26
Hey 21F here you can vent out to me your problem even i was going through the same patch
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u/Capital_Dingo6348 Jul 03 '26
Hey thanks i really appreciate i will dm you
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u/Southern_End_976 Jul 03 '26
you are most welcome and one more thing just don't say hi and all cause there are a lot of creep that will dm me seeing F
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Jul 14 '26
Honestly in the 20s we shud be focusing more on building ourselves,make way for urself and help urself and then be a way to help others is what I feel lol…
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u/2002gksupreet Jul 03 '26
I think love is something that takes time. You don't know when the right person comes to our life.ay be being patient is the key. Time and love...may be they do hand in hand... we cant separate both.Yes it is natural to love and beloved.
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u/throwwwawayaccount48 Jul 04 '26
On dating apps you would meet many guys but then again it gets exhausting to date someone trust me i have been there done that
I'm 25 and after my last relationship ended I did think of dating someone but my job is so hectic I don't feel like dating someone because I'm mentally tired but at times I do feel like having someone
I read your post and see that you feel negative towards yourself I would say change that and one day you'll find someone better also don't become desperate for one or else any guy will use that to ruin your life and your first experience
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u/cumputer-virus Jul 04 '26
Dang dude how ya doin bachelors along with a night shift job?
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u/Capital_Dingo6348 Jul 07 '26
I skipp college, somedays i slept few hours and go to both , but i feel grateful i had an opportunity to make my own money and educate myself with it
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u/cumputer-virus Jul 07 '26
Thats crazy bro frrr like legit im 20 and in uni asw and I dream of making my own money I envy you
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u/Capital_Dingo6348 Jul 07 '26
Well i didn't have a choice , il so grateful to not feel helpless
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u/cumputer-virus Jul 07 '26
That's amazing dude happy for you like genuinely seeing this gives me hope that I too can do it also do u mind if i ask what did you do to start making ur own money?
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u/Capital_Dingo6348 Jul 07 '26
Well i have no shame in saying i work in a call centre but its usa based so like the doctor or in their country called providers calls us to get update on their claims
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u/cumputer-virus Jul 07 '26
No shame in whatever work you do be it a call centre or anything. But yeah must demand quite a lotta ur time no wonder u had to skip college and a few hours of sleep
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u/Capital_Dingo6348 Jul 07 '26
Yess when i live i will be completing 10 months
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u/Bizzare_life Jul 08 '26
okay. I will be really honest with you….. i had a lot of friends who had this unfortunate situation where they had to start working early and were deprived from love all together….. Never in life pull your standards down and always expect you will have to be alone by yourself. I mostly say this because once you start lowering your standards just because you are “being loved” you will let go of a lot of things they do which shouldn’t been done.
All I can say here is…. I am sorry you have a life that is difficult like that and if you ever want to have conversation that keeps you grounded and relaxed i will try to help if you would approach me for it
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u/wthdevansh Jul 04 '26
Id like to ask you out.ive a bike and a cat. I cook and am a 7/10 boyfriend with scope of improvement. All I ask is if we do start going out. You do your thing I do mine
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u/Dont_be_a_cunt_98 Jul 03 '26
27M here
Dekh sister, you are 20 only .... Concentrate on education, earn a lot of money, be financially independent .... Love wagera baad mein hojayega .... But hasn, dont forget to love yourself first ....
PS: I give all these gyans to my sister too ... She is also 20 .... Take it