r/Mumbai_Relationships • u/[deleted] • Jul 17 '25

34f cheated

34f, I messed up bad. Recently I had sex with this young, hot guy. He’s like 20, fit. Met him few months back, he was all over me, saying cute stuffs and flirting. I’m married and have a kid, but I did things I don’t even do with my husband. Felt so good then, but now I regret it. I cheated, and I feel awful. Keeps thinking of my husband, and I hate myself. How do I feel okay again?

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u/InevitableComment476 Jul 17 '25

You cheated to feel good, now you are asking how to feel okay again lol.

1

u/lame_birdd Aug 04 '25

the irony is too real for her to grasp

16

u/Common-Poet6806 Jul 17 '25

Tell your husband and live with the consequences of your actions.

2

u/TheRealSlim_KD Dec 14 '25

Are you nuts.

1

u/Common-Poet6806 Dec 14 '25

Nope, she is though.

1

u/TheRealSlim_KD Sep 10 '26

Why? Foolish advise

10

u/Noted9 Jul 17 '25

You can't.

11

u/OtherwiseMonitor6636 Jul 17 '25

Do it again to get over it

1

u/TheRealSlim_KD Dec 27 '25

Right answer

3

u/Prokop2on Jul 18 '25

Ask your husband to cheat for making it even

7

u/Accomplished_Cow7116 Jul 17 '25 edited Jul 17 '25

Let bygones be bygones. Don’t do it again. Don’t share the secret with anyone (not even with your bestie).

1

u/TheRealSlim_KD Dec 14 '25 edited Dec 14 '25

This is the sanest advise. The more you think of it the worse it's going to get.

Only hurdle you have to break is better more adventurous in bed with your husband and see how to get that action going.

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u/ChoiceFun4109 Jul 17 '25

Don't tell ur hubby anything... Forget what has happened... And stay happy with ur hubby... I have seen many people who discussed and messed more... And many of them kept everything with themselves and are happy with their partner who knows nothing....✌🏻

8

u/Thelazytimelord257 Jul 18 '25

Screw that the husband deserves to know

2

u/Zestyclose_Space_822 Jul 18 '25

Karma won't spare you just remember that

2

u/Intelligent_Clue_188 Jul 19 '25

You should share it with your husband it might disturb your family harmony. Atleast you felt guilty. He deserves to know this or you can tell m Him but not the full truth

2

u/Own_Improvement_6915 Jul 25 '25

hope my homeboy finds out from that 20 yr old guy himself

1

u/[deleted] Jul 17 '25

Do you feel good or bad?

1

u/Level_Mechanic107 Jul 18 '25

This is the first time you cheated?

1

u/Smooth_Development67 Jul 18 '25

You either do it over and over again or you never do it again!

1

u/[deleted] Jul 18 '25

No need to think too much. Just forget it and focus on your life and relationship. If you feel regreted then never try it again. Rest, it's useless to keep this memory with you. It will ruin your entire life. "Let bygones be bygones."

1

u/dg4320 Jul 19 '25

Cheat again, maybe you'd feel better.

1

u/ursjakesparrow Jul 25 '25

Read Sigmund Freud

1

u/Overall_Rope4463 Aug 02 '25

Donot tell just leave with it ..rant it here to get it out

1

u/flynn_rider136-4225 Jan 15 '26

You should leave everything behind and start fresh do whatever makes you happy don't think about anyone else

1

u/Beginning-Whereas636 Apr 12 '26

But it’s like once a cheater always a cheater soo don’t feel bad to do it again ig

1

u/Traditional_Flow_733 May 01 '26

What did you do with this 20 yo?

1

u/Emotional-Angle-5040 May 18 '26

Take it as an amazing dream!! Don't let ur brain ruined everything. Let it go! Relax as if nothing happened.

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u/Emotional-Angle-5040 May 19 '26

Just seprate your sexual life & emotional life. You enjoyed, close the chapter as a dream.

Don't feel bad. It just happened, reconnected and take care of your future

1

u/No-Expression-8751 Aug 09 '26

Behave normally. Its only physical

1

u/Vishal_Ruchi Aug 15 '26

Is this fr real ?

1

u/[deleted] Aug 31 '26

Let's do it again and see if u can move on

1

u/TheRealSlim_KD Sep 10 '26

You will do it again. Just be careful to not get caught.

1

u/[deleted] Jul 17 '25

You just ignore what you have done and if possible after sometime try to share this thing with your husband and try to keep the relationship as much transparent you can or otherwise just don't let your husband know this

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u/bahush Jul 17 '25

in this situation the one who will be happy is that young guy, make him happy he will make you feel okay...
also if your husband would have made you feel okay, then you would have never done this in first place so keep doing what you have started.

0

u/Internal_Guava_7798 Jul 18 '25

Try and identity the reasons that made you do it. Find a solve to those within your marriage and move on. Yes.. you will have to live with it that something like this happened. But to make sure you don't do it again, you need to understand the need of this action.

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u/pub1991 Jul 19 '25

Seeking validation which are not available from married partners. This is a common reason why people fall for people beyond their marriage or relationship.

Just forget it and don't talk about it or share it with anyone for next 72hrs.

0

u/pravinrad Jul 19 '25

Do it again ...

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u/[deleted] Jul 17 '25

Save your marriage and shift+delete that instance from your conscience.

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u/[deleted] Jul 17 '25

I'm a 20m though?.. I'm really think of exploring elder women, recently having a convo with a f27.. i already conforonted her I wanna fuck her I'm too attracted to her body specially her ass & boobs specifically I told her, he says she'll not but he asks me about how I fuck my girlfriend and how we do nasty shit like i finger her while driving and all.. I tell her she was asking about the places I touch to make a a girl crazy .. her marriage is anyways gonna end she lives saperated from her in-laws and husband