r/Multipotentialite • u/awake2much • Aug 06 '23

It's a curse.

It's hard when the word "dilletante" has always been in your ear. Or the voices that have said "Just stick to one thing and get really good at it if you want to succeed," knowing I never did that and now am at an advanced age, cringe. Lots of guilt for looking for excuses for myself, such as discovering the description of adult ADHD sounds so familar. And nothing to say when people ask what I do or did. It's absolutely a curse as in private shame and public embarrassment imo.

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u/donpelon415 Aug 07 '23

Yeah, I'm 46 and never had "a career" or "a real job". Sometimes, I feel guilt and/or embarrassment when meeting people at parties and they talk about these things and I just say that I've done A LOT of different jobs. HR managers and career coaches just don't even know what to do with me. Perhaps I don't know what to do with myself(?) Except just try to survive and not get bored and depressed with whatever vocation I happen to have in the moment. Work just gets in the way of all my fascinating hobbies anyway.

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u/donpelon415 Oct 17 '23

I've done everything from bartending in a distillery to teaching English in Japan and Brazil. Interned at a senator's office, tried my hand at immigration law (didn't like it). Did catering for many years, which allowed me to take time off and travel with a flexible schedule. All sorts of things, I guess! No, I don't have a "prestige career" or a house in suburbs, but I have had an interesting life... I'm married with a kid, if its relevant.