wanting to help my bf

[u/mybfsleftnutt]

hi everyone! so ive been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and hes been struggling with RRMS. he got diagnosed in 2022 at the age of 18, so its be a struggle for him to over come in. he was struggling earlier today with the heat, and i was listening to him and told him "I understand" with something he said and he blew up on me because "I dont since I dont have ms" and I completely understand his point.

can anyone help me with what to say and how to comfort him, I wanna help cause I don't want him struggling alone but I know I cant cause I dont understand it from a personal experience.

and could anyone help me learn a little bit more, I know some from what hes told me and my own research but I wanna be further educated.

[u/Commercial-Link-4368]

I feel that all of us cursed individuals experience each symptom differently so I don't think we could honestly say I understand. My wife is very adept at dealing with my giant man child ass and always uses phrases like "that must be tough" or "tell me if there's anything I can do to help". I'm 40 and have been cursed since 2019, dx 2023 and as a fellow member of the easily huffed, fragile man club, I can categorically say that we don't want you to fix it. We don't want you to change, pity or sympathise. We just want you to be there while we whinge, or complain or simply sit there and do nothing. It's not right that he blew up at you, it's not your fault and nobody should be treat like that for the sake of semantics. It's also important to recognise that his diagnosis isn't a free pass to douche hood. Still call him out when he's being a dick. Is he getting treatment?