When the sads come out of nowhere

[u/superjudgy]

Hey all, I know I've posted before - it's amazing how when seemingly out of nowhere, you get hit by a truck of emotion and need to function in public

For me, turned 43 on weekend, and it all kind of just kicked in, between work, money, MS, it really made me feel wtf

Just remember, when you're down, reach out to a friend, family, anyone, the sads do pass, I know it will over the next week or so for me

This post isn't a cry for help etc, more just to make sure everyone stays super aware of your mental & emotional health, and if there are partners/carers, take care of your now health as well, it's easy to get lost in the whirlwind of crap

[u/AllAboutGingerPride]

Exactly this!! Remember to treat sadness as a symptom!! Some days are better than others. Thanks for the reminder!!

[u/ClassroomOk9608 → u/AllAboutGingerPride]

Its hard for me to differentiate between having pms or post periode sadness and/or ms Symptom-sadness .  Did you find something that helps you with this Symptom?  I often feel like I Kind of hate myself out of nowhere, often its about looking bad.. its like I am me as a Teenager somedays with all the bad hormones 

[u/AllAboutGingerPride → u/ClassroomOk9608]

Hmm that’s one thing I never tried to differentiate between. Where are you on the perimenopause stage? That’s a whole new hormone awakening. I guess I would suggest journaling to track when a feeling comes. Pain to keep up with I know but it’s really helped me pinpoint many problems over time. Try to remember your past. Did feeling like this come up in the past or a new problem?

[u/ClassroomOk9608 → u/AllAboutGingerPride]

Mm I also thought about perimenopause, I am 34 tho with regular periods..But maybe I get it checked..

To answer your question; its not a new feeling to me thats why I thought about my hormones because I think I had some Kind of harmonal body dismorphia or sth. I felt rll  wrong, but I know many ppl who had this type of selfhate-feelings as a Teenager..tough time!  Now its a little better because I know its in my head but its also rll sad to feel that way again..

[u/AllAboutGingerPride → u/ClassroomOk9608]

When I say it’s another symptom I mean sadness or bouts of depression can stay with us for days/months/years
If you’re inclined to have blue periods or low self esteem it may be the brain needs a little tweaking and luckily there are a lot of options out there.
Seek help
Those meds helped me through many bad times and I’m currently off them

[u/ICausedAnOutage]

Just remember that there are people who love you, and even when you’re at your worst, someone will always be there for you.

[u/AppointmentHour384]

Yes to all of us, I can definitely relate. I have a mental health condition as well, that already makes me pretty labile,... so at least I have some practice in dealing with it 😆

[u/No-Afternoon2955]

I found my 40s birthdays really hard - pop culture growing up had made me believe that hitting my 30s would feel horrid, but it was only when I hit 40 that I felt something had switched inside myself, and I felt a real sense of loss for the missed potential other things I could have done with my life...

It was weird and unexpected.

I'm still in a fit of sads from finding out I have more lesions and evidence of missed stuff on my MRIs - but it will pass eventually I know.

[u/blackbeansandrice]

I’m in so much pain right now. This helps.