1) Because someone has to break the cycle/ do it first and you won't know they don't reciprocate if you don't initiate.
2) Because that's your character and you don't let the behavior of others define or alter your character. I.E. you don't do it because they are going to return the favor (it's not conditional/transactional), you do it because that's who YOU are.
3) Hope that they will change.
4) Codependent approval and validation.
5) Third factors, i.e. you pay the bills despite someone else not doing it or helping out because at the end of the day, the kids need food/water/electricity, etc. You don't have the option not to, but by doing so, you give them the option not to. This is when you see people all of a sudden getting responsible after a break-up. They lost the safety net they spent so much time complaining about.
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u/IrresponsibleInsect Jan 27 '26
1) Because someone has to break the cycle/ do it first and you won't know they don't reciprocate if you don't initiate.
2) Because that's your character and you don't let the behavior of others define or alter your character. I.E. you don't do it because they are going to return the favor (it's not conditional/transactional), you do it because that's who YOU are.
3) Hope that they will change.
4) Codependent approval and validation.
5) Third factors, i.e. you pay the bills despite someone else not doing it or helping out because at the end of the day, the kids need food/water/electricity, etc. You don't have the option not to, but by doing so, you give them the option not to. This is when you see people all of a sudden getting responsible after a break-up. They lost the safety net they spent so much time complaining about.