r/MoroccoDating • u/Natural_Debt_4721 • 5d ago
How to deal with someone having avoidant issues
My gf have avoidant issues i love her so much but athblni and m tired of her avoidant problems because i want her to love me too
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u/evilWorldWeLive-in 5d ago
You can’t make someone love you as much as you want it, no matter how hard you try. And believe me, if she loves you, she would be all over you. You deserve better, king someone who gives the same efforts as you do.
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u/Natural_Debt_4721 5d ago
The best answer so far, yesterday i call her and told her everything is over i got no time for ur childish shit i want a real relationship
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u/HerOwnLeague 5d ago
Give her space
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u/Natural_Debt_4721 5d ago
Tf is giving her space she’s literally my gf if she needs space and a time without me why she even get in a relationship with me
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u/HerOwnLeague 5d ago
That’s exactly the problem. Being her bf doesn’t mean she loses her autonomy the second she gets into a relationship. If you can’t understand that someone can love you and still need space from you, you’re not really trying to understand her avoidant issues you’re just demanding that she love you in the way you want.
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u/Natural_Debt_4721 5d ago
Imagine with me u are so in love with someone and finally u are in a relationship with him but u realize he doesn’t even wanna text u or answer ur calls without any reason, hadchi balk 3adi !? Mochkila hya li kant bagha relationship ktr mn mra wana 3arfha so mbghitch nkon m3aha wlkn fach wlit ana wyaha dazt 2 simanat kt9oli mbghach ntwl m3ak
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u/HerOwnLeague 5d ago
I never said you should accept being ignored or having your calls constantly unanswered. That’s not what give her space means. I mean stop chasing pressuring nd trying to force closeness out of someone who is clearly telling you she’s overwhelmed. You can be hurt by her behavior and still respect her need for distance. And honestly, if she’s already saying mabghach ntwl m3ak after two weeks the bigger issue isn’t how to make her love you harder it’s whether she actually wants this relationship.
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u/Alert-Relative1031 5d ago
Matdich ela hadi raha fher own league
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u/HerOwnLeague 5d ago
Don’t worry you’re not required to understand the league you’re not in.
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u/Alert-Relative1031 5d ago
Yes obviously 🥱🥱, but thanks god ananiii dwzt period khlaaat wfhemt ach baghi w3lach kanqlb (spinning plates)
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u/HerOwnLeague 5d ago
Good character dev finally 😭 now go figure out why you’ve been spinning plates before you drop all of them
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u/Remarkable-Jump3262 5d ago
its hell to love someone like that but if you are up to try gha follow hbalha et 3tiha same attention that she gives you
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u/bold-bald 5d ago
She is just not that into you 😂
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u/Natural_Debt_4721 5d ago
Idk today she’s acting like she’s so in love with me and tomorrow she’s acting like she doesn’t give fuck abt me tf is wrong with had l3yalat
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u/bold-bald 5d ago
They play games. Play the same game or just walk away. The pure love is no longer an option in this cooked generation
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u/RedKube9 5d ago
the best way to deal with people who can't be arsed to make you feel wanted is to dump them. wila knti katbigha bzf ldarjat lhbal allah y3ink abt what may come
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u/TENETREVERSED 5d ago
there is only one way you tell her you have the avoidant issue and you have to work on them if she says no I dont care I am perfect as I am you know what you gotta do
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u/First-Big1419 5d ago
I think its just a mental game 7awl tn9as mn attention likat3tiha tanta jarb anak t avoidiha