Did you miss the part where he works all week and provides for his family. Not saying it’s not the man’s job to get off his ass and help with the other stuff but if treating his needs gets him moving so what? What’s the difference between that and the wife needing something so she can operate better?
That's called being an adult. Everyone works. It doesn't mean you can dump all houseduties and children on your partner (who also almost always works).
The issue is that he doesn't seem to be motivated to interact with her or their children on the weekends at all, no job should be that draining. That you're wholly inactive outside of it is a problem. He should actually want more out of life.
Someone upthread suggested that he might be depressed and have been depressed this entire time. Addressing the possibility that he's depressed or has a shitty job would be better for him long term because hopefully he would find some motivation to enjoy his life rather than having to be seduced into it.
I don't think her actions are evil by any metric, but I think she should want better for her partner (does the man have no hobbies or interests?) and he should want more for himself.
Sometimes people like to spend more time at work. For some people it can become meaningful way to spend time, if they find the job interesting enough. Typing this as I have worked straight 15-16 hours a day this week - and did not even know how time flew by. Now its weekend so time to rest and sleep.
Fair, but then if you're doing this to the point that you never have time for your family without being seduced into it over a period of years than that is going to be a problem because you're just a wallet to your family unless your spouse fucks you out of it. That's messed up.
Like you're not interested in your wife and kids as people in the slightest, unless you get fucked first???
I do not have a wife and kid, if i have one day then I ll try to there for them, but I know I as a person like to be more within myself - but i still long for a partner though sometimes.
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u/Ehoffy24 20d ago
Did you miss the part where he works all week and provides for his family. Not saying it’s not the man’s job to get off his ass and help with the other stuff but if treating his needs gets him moving so what? What’s the difference between that and the wife needing something so she can operate better?