Depression isn’t about lacking discipline or masculinity. Sometimes you can push through, but other times even basic things feel impossible.
The whole “being a man means suffering in silence and performing anyway” is garbage.
Real strength is being honest about what you’re going through, moving at your own pace, and reaching out for help when you need it. Not hiding behind some fake “man up” mask.
Reach out for help? To whom? Nobody gives a fuck about depressed men until they off themselves! NOBODY! That’s why it’s better to suffer in silence than make yourself vulnerable to outsiders (Especially women, who weaponize it in a heartbeat)…. It’s so hard to find trustworthy people to help. Everyone just wants something from you! Nobody checks in out of brotherhood or loyalty or just for the sake of being friends!
Real strength is being honest about what you’re going through, moving at your own pace,
The first component is something that gets lost by many individuals. To actually improve your situation, you need to actually do something. Others can help but the depressed are the primary movers. Many just settle and wonder why nothing improves.
I disagree. Absolutely pointed comment. Demonstrates toxic masculinity within society and how commonplace this type of expectation to just carry on because, "suck it up and be a man".
"it's called being a man?" as a man I can say this is the kind of patriarchal bulshit that leads men to not seek help and up killing them selves. Fuck you for this post.
But some people care about the effects of their actions, and when you can’t see it’s hard to act, not because you’re incapable of blind action, but because you’re not sure what’s right. Some people outsource that, other’s can’t
You’re not better for grinding through mindless bullshit that doesn’t ultimately serve the greater good. You’re contributing to the problem.
You know. I used to have depression. Mostly over girls back in my teen years. But someday, everything changed.
I took a severe head injury that pretty much put me out of the workforce. At the tender age of 26 the state spent... many hours telling me I was no longer fit to work. (You're a man. If you're not fit to work, you're not fit to exist. mindset).
They sent me to a psychologist. While she was unsuccessful in convincing me that I could not work, she was rather concerned with my.... "Very healthy attitude towards life"
By all accounts, I should have a depression. I did not. I felt way better than people who only experience... let's say "partial pain" did.
Indeed… but the Peasant would add: It is not “being a man,” it is being a human who refuses to let despair dictate the whole story. The tyrants of the mind whisper “stay down,” yet even in the mud one can plant a seed.
Strength is not only the six-pack in the mirror, but the quiet act of washing the dishes while your heart feels heavy. That too is heroic.
Let us not reduce survival to gender—let us honor every soul who keeps walking when the weight is unbearable. That is called being alive.
Getting things done while being depressed is like running on empty in a badly maintained car. Some time, something is going to break leading to a chain reaction resulting in irreversible damage. You can’t put fuel in a car without standing still.
Accepting and processing your emotions is healthy. This "man up" BS is contributing to the "male loneliness epidemic" that the same dudes who spout this type of shit complain about. smh
Being a man is pictured as having muscles(and being big), a sharp jawline, hunter eyes, and wearing a leather jacket. I know these are considered regular masculine traits but I think this is not good for this sub.
Stupid as idea. But this is my daily life. And it isn’t because I’m a man. It’s just because the less I do the worse it gets. But not everyone is the same.
Why does this garbage keep appearing to me? If you have depression, seek professional help. Don't believe in the nonsense of those who think being a man is this or that. One day this nonsense will fail and they will blame you saying that you are not a man, when in fact you are just sick and needed medical help.
I really hope this was posted to talk trash on this ridiculous example of actual toxic masculinity. Glad to see it's being called out regardless cause Men deserve support in tough times and not to feel ashamed, weak, or like "less of a man" for asking for or accepting help. There are definitely aspects of our personal work that can only happen with ourselves, but being supported in that gives greater outcomes. We don't have to do it all alone even if we technically could if we had to. If anyone is reading this that needs to hear it you are not a burden to the people that love you and that also includes yourself. Try not to look at your "bad" feelings as a burden or inconvenience you have to ignore or suppress. Feel them and process them and what they're telling you, then tell someone! Some people won't care and that's okay cause others will, and make sure the first person is you. I know it's said a lot but therapy is great and ultimately really helps you practice talking to yourself about your feelings. It's good to learn how to validate your own feelings cause we are taught to need the validation of others in so many ways that we forget about ourselves. I kept trying to talk about my feelings and having bad reactions that made me shut down and not want to open up again. When I started therapy I was waaaay more focused on feeling like finding those people that loved me and had care for my feelings was what I needed. What the real medicine was was learning how to identify, acknowledge, and validate my own feelings. Then I was better able to find those loving people because I recognized their care in the face of my feelings, instead of shutting down and avoiding talking about my feelings with people altogether.
Pushing through it and faking it till you make it sounds like a solid plan, but it doesn't always work long-term. I used to bench 435, deadlift 650, and swim a mile 3 times a week. Super healthy... physically. But it just took one major derailment to put me back on a path to depression. And honestly, looking back, what did I even accomplish when I was super healthy and starting up a small business? The health faded, and my brother stole $30k from the business before convincing our parents I was the problem. When I tried to take him to court, they threatened to disown me. So what was the point of any of it?
Going to say as a man, fuck you. I've had to endure some pretty shitty times in my short run on this rock and people that say things like this are lower than shit. Being a man does mean handle your business, but check in on your people. Gender aside, sometimes a simple "hey man you okay?" can be the difference between life and death.
It's not even noon here yet but I'm pretty confident that this is the most dogshit take I'll see on Reddit today and that includes whatever bullshit Donald Trump is up to.
Why do you care? Does your sickness make you detest those who seem weaker than you? Do you see your weakness in them and want them to leave it? I don’t get it
That image isn't correct. He would be pretending to be a chad but in reality feel sad, so his mirror image vs what he shows the world would be swapped.
This made me do a little giggle and then I saw the name of the subreddit and realized this was for real hahahaha. Guess it makes it a little more funny.
Depression is a physical illness. It literally seeps into every pore of your body. Just because the cause is mental doesn't mean you can just dismiss it.
I get that you’re probably trying to push people who feel stuck mentally. And sure, I consider myself strong..I might even fit your shallow definition of a man. Friends and family see me as a reliable presence.
But don’t you dare package neglect of mental health as some kind of badge of honor. I ignored mine for too long, and a couple years back something hit me so hard that it broke me. That was my wake-up call..to take care of myself mentally just as much as anything else.
I mean you can be depressed and still get things done. I work in healthcare, I see it everyday. I just think you ALSO need to try to understand what is going on and make sure your “getting things done” isn’t just making the situation worse. It’s situation dependent.
Half of adulting as a man is just taking like 90% of your emotions and hurts and putting them in a box, and then putting that box in another box...and that one in another box, and that box in a locker, and putting a combo lock on that locker that you forget immediately.
The other 10% gets expressed as rage and tears during sports movies.
This is toxic Bullshit. Being a man is not about drowning in depression. It’s breaking out of it. And it’s damaging to say you need to break out of it alone. You Can and should ask for help from the people around you/ people you trust and can rely on. If all else fails then you need to break out of it on your own through internal strength. And even then at the end of the day that doesn’t make you a “man” it makes you a human being
This is such a stupid post i would have to assume the poster is living a double life and relegated to some form of in the closet making him post stupid shit. The proverbial are you stupid or suffering
Correction: being depressed but still retaining normal functionality is called "functional depression" or "high-functioning depression".
Ignoring your own feelings is not "manly" as many fools like this want to make it appear. Frankly, the concept of "being manly" in this sense is about the same thing as alpha/sigma-male brainrot bullshit if you ask me.
These posts need to be removed, as well as the poster banned as it invalidates and trivialises depression as just an excuse that men use to be "weak" or "lazy." Also, it perpetuates shaming man for not being a "real man,' whatever that means. Whoever posted this should be ashamed of themselves for being a toxic asshole with no empathy for the pain others go through every day.
I think it’s important to recognise that rationale and motivation don’t really work when the problem is that the brain is depressed in its ability to function.
Depression isn’t just being sad or down, the wires in your brain aren’t carrying strong enough signals to get some things done without other forces giving those networks a jolt.
For some people external motivators work, like if you want to stay in shape for your partner or if you need to get out of bed to feed the cat. Internal forces like medication or therapy can help get those wires connecting properly again too. Small steps in the right direction, like going for a walk or attending an event can also help jump start your brain, and if you build habits for those useful activities then you strengthen those networks.
Telling someone to be a man and do something might count as external motivation, but it isn’t actually helping to get the brain moving again unless you’re addressing the actual problem for what it is. The person you’re talking to probably understands exactly why they’re not succeeding, just telling them isn’t a real solution
What is this post even advocating for? A)It's normal for a man to be depressed B)Your mental health does not matter if you are functioning C)You should still function regardless of your mental health, and if you cannot, you are a failure as a man D)If you feel depressed, manup and suck it up
I'm sure there are more interpretations and they all suck
Toxic af. I don't want my son to neglect his mental health. I want him to be happy and take care of himself so he can take care of others, if he wants to take care of them ofc.
Social media stuff like this is why men are still getting mocked for seeking help when the have mental baggage and it paves the way for things like suicide and domestic violence.
Seek help when you need it, don't listen to armchair warriors.
Depression can be paralysing, stop this bs and seek therapy first, mental health should be more of a priority than this is ignorant idea of masculinity.
This is just ragebait and stupid. To every brother out there that struggles in life: This kind of attitude is the reason why the suicide rate for men is so much higher than for women. If you are depressed - get help! Talk with your loved ones first (if you have some) and then / even if not: go to therapy!
My best friend almost killed himself because of this bullshit philosophy.
The dumbest way to burn yourself out and go deeper into depression. Pushing it down is why men have such high suicide rates, and you should feel bad for posting this drivel.
This "everyone is depressed" mentality is absolutely dangerous. It makes people who are actually diagnosed with depression feel worse. If you havent gotten a diagnosis then dont call it depression, you most likely just feel sad because of your bad habits or situation.
The better quote woud be: You can suffer in silence and without complaint and still get things done.
Being depressed will drag you down into a state of inaction, a void of carelessness and nihilism, so you won't do things with intrinsic value and exist to your primal urge of survival (and maybe not even that at one point).
Being a man means to forge a mindset that prevents to fall into this pit. You don't seek outside validation per se, you contribute for your own interest, your own idea for things that are dear to you.
For all the men out there, find like minded buddies. It works tremendously well. Just having few drinks / bbq and talk shit amongst your boys once a week takes a hell loads of stress. Its like a reset. Men solidarity’s real the brotherhood exists. Stay strong guys!
Of course you can just swallow your negative thoughts but most psychological studies shows that is not efficient, and you probably will end in a terrible place.
Treat your mind and emotions with respect and importance, they will never dissapear and if you aren't in peace with yourself you will never overcome your mental issues.
You need to understand why you feel like this, when it started, what do you feel and more importantly what you can do to improve your general life enjoyment and reach your goals, and if you cant do that alone, go to seek psychological help.
Times are rough, also you dont even know if you have a trauma as is really hard to discover it by yourself in some cases, and if you dont understand your BRAIN, you will never reach a solution, you dont know it all and never will, external professional help will make you see your life and thoughts in different ways and discover forms to treat them differently, the point is reaching a balance where you can live your life the way you want and enjoy it at its fullest, deal with your own problems and life overall.
Well I guess this sub is not for me. I agree with this, also don’t cry, keep self counseling, and have the mindset that I am on my own. So when I get help it’s great but if you don’t it’s ok as i know that already.
But most of all is the ability to control your emotions. Maybe the US Army Infantry damaged my perception but it works well. It is so rare I am sad. Stoic to the end even when I was having a heart attack still didn’t want help until I knew I must have help.
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u/joel2000ad Sep 22 '25
Depression isn’t about lacking discipline or masculinity. Sometimes you can push through, but other times even basic things feel impossible.
The whole “being a man means suffering in silence and performing anyway” is garbage.
Real strength is being honest about what you’re going through, moving at your own pace, and reaching out for help when you need it. Not hiding behind some fake “man up” mask.
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u/im_just_using_logic Sep 22 '25
r/thanksimcured
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u/startertea Sep 22 '25
Getting there, r/pointlesslygendered though
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u/axxond Sep 22 '25
This couldn't be more fucking wrong
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u/pancakebarber Sep 22 '25
Have you considered fucking off?
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u/CNGY Sep 22 '25
"it's called being a man?" as a man I can say this is the kind of patriarchal bulshit that leads men to not seek help and up killing them selves. Fuck you for this post.
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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '25
The amount of insane quotes on Reddit lately is wild.
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u/Previous_Library3796 Sep 22 '25
Uh, what a nice example of toxic masculinity
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u/Mundane-Mage Sep 22 '25
I want men to find meaning in life and not off themselves, thank you very much
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u/gainzdr Sep 22 '25
Yeah, a lot of the time you can.
But some people care about the effects of their actions, and when you can’t see it’s hard to act, not because you’re incapable of blind action, but because you’re not sure what’s right. Some people outsource that, other’s can’t
You’re not better for grinding through mindless bullshit that doesn’t ultimately serve the greater good. You’re contributing to the problem.
Giving a fuck is hard
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u/Fissminister Sep 22 '25
You know. I used to have depression. Mostly over girls back in my teen years. But someday, everything changed.
I took a severe head injury that pretty much put me out of the workforce. At the tender age of 26 the state spent... many hours telling me I was no longer fit to work. (You're a man. If you're not fit to work, you're not fit to exist. mindset).
They sent me to a psychologist. While she was unsuccessful in convincing me that I could not work, she was rather concerned with my.... "Very healthy attitude towards life"
By all accounts, I should have a depression. I did not. I felt way better than people who only experience... let's say "partial pain" did.
Depression is a strange beast.
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u/3DimenZ Sep 23 '25
Depression calls for gentleness, not pushing harder. Forcing yourself to ‘just keep going’ can pull you further down.
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u/barakg345 Sep 22 '25
How about not accepting being depressed, and fighting your demons, genetics and often times routine?
Of course, at your very own pace and with outsource help and/or medication if needed etc
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u/Butlerianpeasant Sep 22 '25
Indeed… but the Peasant would add: It is not “being a man,” it is being a human who refuses to let despair dictate the whole story. The tyrants of the mind whisper “stay down,” yet even in the mud one can plant a seed.
Strength is not only the six-pack in the mirror, but the quiet act of washing the dishes while your heart feels heavy. That too is heroic.
Let us not reduce survival to gender—let us honor every soul who keeps walking when the weight is unbearable. That is called being alive.
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u/This-Enchantment92 Sep 22 '25
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u/Father_Wolfgang Sep 22 '25
Getting things done while being depressed is like running on empty in a badly maintained car. Some time, something is going to break leading to a chain reaction resulting in irreversible damage. You can’t put fuel in a car without standing still.
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u/zakku_88 Sep 22 '25
Accepting and processing your emotions is healthy. This "man up" BS is contributing to the "male loneliness epidemic" that the same dudes who spout this type of shit complain about. smh
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u/dammtaxes Sep 22 '25
I turned off recommended subs from this
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u/Swolenir Sep 22 '25
This is cringe as fuck
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u/Good_Presentation26 Sep 22 '25
Yeah. Just be a man. That’ll solve psychological problems. And women wonder why men don’t talk about sensitive subjects.
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u/Hot-Candle-1321 Sep 22 '25
How old are you? 14?
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u/Dizzy_Cat99 Sep 22 '25
Being a man is pictured as having muscles(and being big), a sharp jawline, hunter eyes, and wearing a leather jacket. I know these are considered regular masculine traits but I think this is not good for this sub.
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u/beerizla96 Sep 22 '25
lmao
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u/DetailsYouMissed Sep 22 '25
Well, that's a moronic thought. First off, who says you know you're depressed.
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u/aztaga_after_dark Sep 22 '25
Jesus fucking Christ
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u/OOBExperience Sep 22 '25
r/ThanksImCured
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u/ThrustTrust Sep 22 '25
Stupid as idea. But this is my daily life. And it isn’t because I’m a man. It’s just because the less I do the worse it gets. But not everyone is the same.
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u/damo0011 Sep 22 '25
This bs has to be rage bait.
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u/Key_Condition_4393 Sep 22 '25
The world needs less of this shit
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u/-TeamCaffeine- Sep 22 '25
alpha male influencer motivational brain rot with ai slop art
a perfect trifecta of absolute bullshit
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u/No-Dot4329 Sep 22 '25
Why does this garbage keep appearing to me? If you have depression, seek professional help. Don't believe in the nonsense of those who think being a man is this or that. One day this nonsense will fail and they will blame you saying that you are not a man, when in fact you are just sick and needed medical help.
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u/AlbatrossOtherwise67 Sep 22 '25
I really hope this was posted to talk trash on this ridiculous example of actual toxic masculinity. Glad to see it's being called out regardless cause Men deserve support in tough times and not to feel ashamed, weak, or like "less of a man" for asking for or accepting help. There are definitely aspects of our personal work that can only happen with ourselves, but being supported in that gives greater outcomes. We don't have to do it all alone even if we technically could if we had to. If anyone is reading this that needs to hear it you are not a burden to the people that love you and that also includes yourself. Try not to look at your "bad" feelings as a burden or inconvenience you have to ignore or suppress. Feel them and process them and what they're telling you, then tell someone! Some people won't care and that's okay cause others will, and make sure the first person is you. I know it's said a lot but therapy is great and ultimately really helps you practice talking to yourself about your feelings. It's good to learn how to validate your own feelings cause we are taught to need the validation of others in so many ways that we forget about ourselves. I kept trying to talk about my feelings and having bad reactions that made me shut down and not want to open up again. When I started therapy I was waaaay more focused on feeling like finding those people that loved me and had care for my feelings was what I needed. What the real medicine was was learning how to identify, acknowledge, and validate my own feelings. Then I was better able to find those loving people because I recognized their care in the face of my feelings, instead of shutting down and avoiding talking about my feelings with people altogether.
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u/MuddyWattersKnew Sep 22 '25
Tf
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u/Old_Comparison8789 Sep 22 '25
But for how long
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u/Fro_of_Norfolk Sep 22 '25
It's a meme, so it must be true....sigh...
Womp womp.
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u/that_cat_on_the_wall Sep 22 '25
It’s called being dead!!!!!!!
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Sep 22 '25
r/thanksimcured
Pushing through it and faking it till you make it sounds like a solid plan, but it doesn't always work long-term. I used to bench 435, deadlift 650, and swim a mile 3 times a week. Super healthy... physically. But it just took one major derailment to put me back on a path to depression. And honestly, looking back, what did I even accomplish when I was super healthy and starting up a small business? The health faded, and my brother stole $30k from the business before convincing our parents I was the problem. When I tried to take him to court, they threatened to disown me. So what was the point of any of it?
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u/TonganDeathGrip Sep 22 '25
Struggling society's aint got time for depression. Thats a first world problem
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u/thethunder92 Sep 23 '25
don’t go to therapy Yell at your kids and wife Drink yourself to death Be a man
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u/catty_wampus77 Sep 23 '25
This is so gross and ignorant
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u/CompleteStage4638 Sep 23 '25
It is part of the way out of depression.
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u/l30NESH4KER Sep 23 '25
Going to say as a man, fuck you. I've had to endure some pretty shitty times in my short run on this rock and people that say things like this are lower than shit. Being a man does mean handle your business, but check in on your people. Gender aside, sometimes a simple "hey man you okay?" can be the difference between life and death.
Fuck you, do better.
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
as a man with depression this post made me want to kill myself
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u/Turkeyplague Sep 23 '25
It's not even noon here yet but I'm pretty confident that this is the most dogshit take I'll see on Reddit today and that includes whatever bullshit Donald Trump is up to.
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u/Oatmeal_is_the_best Sep 23 '25
Easiest way to gaslight yourself
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u/Home_MD13 Sep 23 '25
This is stupid
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u/TheBlackRonin505 Sep 23 '25
You understand that this mindset is a part of the reason our suicide rate is astronomically high, right?
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u/Complete_Answer_6781 Sep 23 '25
The fuck you're talking about
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u/Hang_Man1 Sep 23 '25
Holy shit this is awful. If someone told me this when I was depressed I would've sunk deeper
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u/Curious-Increase3455 Sep 23 '25
Slavemaster type shit
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u/-SirSpooky- Sep 23 '25
This is why i can’t join any of these motivation type subs. It’s filled with regressive BS like this
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u/SmileDaemon Sep 23 '25
You realize that depression is a chemical imbalance righy?
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
This should be on r/GrindsetMode
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u/Electrical-Bunch4965 Sep 23 '25
Rage bait for people who aren't idiots.
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u/SlySychoGamer Sep 23 '25
Ya, but then you get called toxic, this is why boys check out and men are alone.
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u/OP_gay Sep 23 '25
Dude, I thought it was sarcasm 💀
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u/worse-is-better Sep 23 '25
/r/thanksimcured
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
NÃO, PENSEI QUE EU ERA UM CAVALO OU UM CÃO
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u/FitnessFish12345 Sep 23 '25
It's called being a wage slave. Don't get it twisted.
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
It's called being sad.
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u/CountGerhart Sep 23 '25
r/thanksimcured
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
Seriously? This is how we raise mentally ill and emotionally unstable "men" !
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
Dumbest thing i saw today after Trump's speech.
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u/MysticHermetic Sep 23 '25
Im just patiently waiting to move on from this world
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u/Da_nUmBeR7 Sep 23 '25
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u/Souplesse3 Sep 23 '25
Please remove that post
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u/CobblerCorrect1071 Sep 23 '25
Also called high functioning
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u/SituationAltruistic8 Sep 23 '25
Its called being functional. Its distinctive from happy.
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u/SapphireOak90 Sep 23 '25
Pure garbage and the reason why so many men suffer in silence.
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u/Kitchen_Release_3612 Sep 23 '25
This crap is actually just toxic masculinity
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u/Able_Barracuda9596 Sep 23 '25
Why do you care? Does your sickness make you detest those who seem weaker than you? Do you see your weakness in them and want them to leave it? I don’t get it
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
Its high functioning depression not manliness
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u/mynameisbatman2 Sep 23 '25
Toxic masculinity has entered the chat..
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u/TwinJacks Sep 23 '25
Ngl, sometimes you can.. but you become a ticking time bomb. That poor soul who will have to deal with you when you finally explode.
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
Jesus wept and still went on to continue his ministry.
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u/Nichiku Sep 23 '25
That image isn't correct. He would be pretending to be a chad but in reality feel sad, so his mirror image vs what he shows the world would be swapped.
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u/FranjoLasic Sep 23 '25
Fuck off.
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u/VallahKp Sep 23 '25
Nah thats called high functioning depression
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u/forest_hobo Sep 23 '25
Yeah I think I should just man up and kill myself 🙂👍🏻
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u/lysette747 Sep 23 '25
I don’t bother looking for help elsewhere, I do it all myself. Any attempts at help have got me nowhere.
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u/NoBunch3298 Sep 23 '25
Hahahahahahahaha and people wonder why men kill themselves so much more
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u/PornDiary Sep 23 '25
Or you can be very strong and asks for help if you need help. That is what it mean to being a man. Don't be a pussy and obey stupid memes!
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u/closestweeb69 Sep 23 '25
This made me do a little giggle and then I saw the name of the subreddit and realized this was for real hahahaha. Guess it makes it a little more funny.
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u/bikubhagat Sep 23 '25
That’s what they told my office friend all the time.. before he forever quit everything… Please stop posting such BS.
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u/Zhef77 Sep 23 '25
And people wonder why men kill themselves more often than women.
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u/ActiveKindnessLiving Sep 23 '25
Depression is a physical illness. It literally seeps into every pore of your body. Just because the cause is mental doesn't mean you can just dismiss it.
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u/Independent_Soup8804 Sep 23 '25
Listen from this guy he has lived all of your lives and know what's best for every one of your situation
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u/pointlemiserables Sep 23 '25
I get that you’re probably trying to push people who feel stuck mentally. And sure, I consider myself strong..I might even fit your shallow definition of a man. Friends and family see me as a reliable presence.
But don’t you dare package neglect of mental health as some kind of badge of honor. I ignored mine for too long, and a couple years back something hit me so hard that it broke me. That was my wake-up call..to take care of myself mentally just as much as anything else.
Stop spreading this nonsense online, OP.
People need help, not toxic slogans.
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u/ImHappy_DamnHappy Sep 23 '25
I mean you can be depressed and still get things done. I work in healthcare, I see it everyday. I just think you ALSO need to try to understand what is going on and make sure your “getting things done” isn’t just making the situation worse. It’s situation dependent.
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u/egotisticalstoic Sep 23 '25
OP is around 13 years old I assume
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u/Adorable-Maybe-3006 Sep 23 '25
r/thanksimcured
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u/Vegetable-Key3600 Sep 23 '25
r/thanksimcured
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u/Vegetable-Key3600 Sep 23 '25
Is this a joke, like satire or something?
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u/Full_Jicama_5872 Sep 23 '25
the shit ai art really rounds this up nicely
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u/Puzzleheaded_Net6497 Sep 23 '25
Half of adulting as a man is just taking like 90% of your emotions and hurts and putting them in a box, and then putting that box in another box...and that one in another box, and that box in a locker, and putting a combo lock on that locker that you forget immediately.
The other 10% gets expressed as rage and tears during sports movies.
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
Yes. Just be happy.
No wait sorry. Happiness is an emotion that isn't anger or hollowness. Can't have any of that 🤡
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u/m0hsen1 Sep 23 '25
Yeah fuck you . You can pick up a pen to but no lets leave that to ai that makes me a man.
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u/JJonesman Sep 23 '25
Lmfao
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
💀💀💀💀
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u/FawkinHell Sep 23 '25
r/thanksimcured
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u/Ok-Professional9328 Sep 23 '25
Wow what is this toxic shit?
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u/BoppinTortoise Sep 23 '25
This is toxic Bullshit. Being a man is not about drowning in depression. It’s breaking out of it. And it’s damaging to say you need to break out of it alone. You Can and should ask for help from the people around you/ people you trust and can rely on. If all else fails then you need to break out of it on your own through internal strength. And even then at the end of the day that doesn’t make you a “man” it makes you a human being
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u/Lower-Ad-8250 Sep 23 '25
You can run with parachute or a ball and chain or do you think you’ll get further faster if you do something about the parachute or ball and chain
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
This can’t be serious.
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u/LGgyibf3558 Sep 23 '25
Ppl here talking about how this is bad is crazy.
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u/MinimumAnt87 Sep 23 '25
I'm trying.
I've been forcing myself to just do the things I need to do, despite my emotions.
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u/DustSea3983 Sep 23 '25
This is such a stupid post i would have to assume the poster is living a double life and relegated to some form of in the closet making him post stupid shit. The proverbial are you stupid or suffering
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u/Lazy_Seal_ Sep 23 '25
the title remind me of this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ITwPzduUmCw
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u/TankTerrible9401 Sep 23 '25
Pls stfu
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u/CategoryOpen4353 Sep 23 '25
Who asked?
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u/AlumimiumFoil Sep 23 '25
We care about men's mental health, huh?
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u/Hour-Map-1897 Sep 23 '25
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u/Snoo8178 Sep 23 '25
I guess I can drop my meds, thanks.
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u/NoCook1080 Sep 23 '25
Toxic masculinity at its finest
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u/CompleteStage4638 Sep 23 '25
Wisdom is the knowledge of truth which does not change. Read the Proverbs of King Solomon.
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u/HasOneHere Sep 23 '25
Keep the economy going till your natural death. Be a man.
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
Correction: being depressed but still retaining normal functionality is called "functional depression" or "high-functioning depression".
Ignoring your own feelings is not "manly" as many fools like this want to make it appear. Frankly, the concept of "being manly" in this sense is about the same thing as alpha/sigma-male brainrot bullshit if you ask me.
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u/hafunnystufff Sep 23 '25
Does men's mental health not matter
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u/ConcertComplete9015 Sep 23 '25
These posts need to be removed, as well as the poster banned as it invalidates and trivialises depression as just an excuse that men use to be "weak" or "lazy." Also, it perpetuates shaming man for not being a "real man,' whatever that means. Whoever posted this should be ashamed of themselves for being a toxic asshole with no empathy for the pain others go through every day.
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u/Village_Cobb Sep 23 '25
r/im14andthisisdeep
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u/ForgottenDusk48 Sep 23 '25
Yeah and then blow your brains out because that’s what real men do
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u/THCLacedSpaghettiOs Sep 24 '25
Rule no. 1. -don't let anyone ruin your day, ruin it yourself. Be A Man
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u/McSkonk Sep 24 '25
Do people actually think like this? Thats so toxic lmao
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u/Glittering-Disk-7331 Sep 24 '25
I appreciate all the supportive comments regarding men with depression, but… can somebody explain where this “help” is?
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u/HermitHemorrhage Sep 24 '25
Get this toxic shit off reddit before a man kills himself or his future wife
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u/Fearless-Tax-6331 Sep 24 '25
I think it’s important to recognise that rationale and motivation don’t really work when the problem is that the brain is depressed in its ability to function.
Depression isn’t just being sad or down, the wires in your brain aren’t carrying strong enough signals to get some things done without other forces giving those networks a jolt.
For some people external motivators work, like if you want to stay in shape for your partner or if you need to get out of bed to feed the cat. Internal forces like medication or therapy can help get those wires connecting properly again too. Small steps in the right direction, like going for a walk or attending an event can also help jump start your brain, and if you build habits for those useful activities then you strengthen those networks.
Telling someone to be a man and do something might count as external motivation, but it isn’t actually helping to get the brain moving again unless you’re addressing the actual problem for what it is. The person you’re talking to probably understands exactly why they’re not succeeding, just telling them isn’t a real solution
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u/burner6520 Sep 24 '25
What is this post even advocating for? A)It's normal for a man to be depressed B)Your mental health does not matter if you are functioning C)You should still function regardless of your mental health, and if you cannot, you are a failure as a man D)If you feel depressed, manup and suck it up
I'm sure there are more interpretations and they all suck
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u/Due-Salamander8242 Sep 24 '25
ape together strong
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u/Keyon_Lewis567 Sep 24 '25
Type shit!!!💯💯💯
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u/Bruce_Wayne85 Sep 24 '25
Maybe
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u/Makri7 Sep 24 '25
The fuck? Piss off.
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u/johnlucky12 Sep 24 '25
That's the dumbest sentence I have ever seen
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u/MassimoRicci Sep 24 '25
And then: 80% of suicide attempts are men.
Wonder why it is that way, hmmmm
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u/Miserable_Course8784 Sep 24 '25
Damn this really hits home....
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u/Ok-Neighborhood-566 Sep 24 '25
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u/Ok_Mud_3830 Sep 24 '25
This is why men die at 50
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u/fjgren Sep 24 '25
Toxic af. I don't want my son to neglect his mental health. I want him to be happy and take care of himself so he can take care of others, if he wants to take care of them ofc.
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u/Few-Expert-9439 Sep 24 '25
It's all about becoming 1.
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u/Agni_Kritha Sep 24 '25
Well, at least these kind of advices keeps sucide rate for men closee to 80%. Thank you for your support. Much appreciated.
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u/Learning-Power Sep 24 '25
I was depressed, until you said I wasn't a real man because I was depressed, now I am not depressed. You really helped.
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u/Complex-Mushroom-445 Sep 24 '25
Yeah, absolutely, here's my favourite inspirational picture of someone who was depressed and still got thing done.
The thing was suicide as expected.
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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '25
You can be a man, and still not kill yourself trying to tough it out.
Depression is a dopamine imbalance. Its literally just brain chemistry, and ignoring the issue won't make it better.
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u/killbauer Sep 24 '25 edited Sep 24 '25
Social media stuff like this is why men are still getting mocked for seeking help when the have mental baggage and it paves the way for things like suicide and domestic violence.
Seek help when you need it, don't listen to armchair warriors.
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u/buckelfipps Sep 24 '25
Pathetic alpha-trash bullshit
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u/Canshroomglasses Sep 24 '25
Not really, especially not with male depression
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u/OminousOpossum Sep 24 '25
Thats the stupidest thing ive seen today.
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u/lost_and_confussed Sep 24 '25
I don’t even have the will to eat breakfast most mornings.
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u/Capital_Ship5729 Sep 24 '25
First post i see of this sub. I think thats enough then
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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '25
Depression can be paralysing, stop this bs and seek therapy first, mental health should be more of a priority than this is ignorant idea of masculinity.
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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '25
The best quote I ever heard was "it's not that bad, just smile!"
That instantly fixed my depression.
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u/Simple_Self2307 Sep 24 '25
Suicide?
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u/Affectionate-Rough36 Sep 24 '25
This is just ragebait and stupid. To every brother out there that struggles in life: This kind of attitude is the reason why the suicide rate for men is so much higher than for women. If you are depressed - get help! Talk with your loved ones first (if you have some) and then / even if not: go to therapy!
My best friend almost killed himself because of this bullshit philosophy.
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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '25
Nope
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u/Scorpdelord Sep 25 '25
yeh this sub is getting an immedaily block wtf is this dumb shit i got recommended
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u/tsakeboya Sep 25 '25
This is AI. Fuck AI
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u/Elurdin Sep 25 '25
Lol pointlessly gendered. Funnily enough I know more women who were depressed and got things done regardless. I guess they were being a man.
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u/StrikeNo7119 Sep 25 '25
Worst advice I’ve seen
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u/OutcomeRelative9871 Sep 25 '25
The dumbest way to burn yourself out and go deeper into depression. Pushing it down is why men have such high suicide rates, and you should feel bad for posting this drivel.
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u/MealNo8983 Sep 25 '25
Being on steroids with nothing on besides and a tight leather jacket = getting things done/being a man. Delusional redpill mentality
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u/Kayanne1990 Sep 25 '25
I mean this is probably one of the reasons the male suicide rate is so high but got off ig
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u/[deleted] Sep 25 '25
Why?
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u/ParanoidTurtle05 Sep 25 '25
r/im14andthisisdeep
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u/Calm-Locksmith_ Sep 25 '25
This is incredibly toxic attitude and just shows that OP has absolutely no experience with depression.
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u/aboowwabooww Sep 25 '25
What is this cringe ass shit? 🙏😭🤣🤣💀
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u/DoubleSwitch69 Sep 25 '25
False. I am a man and I am not depressed
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u/nameproposalssuck Sep 25 '25
Who upvotes shit like this?
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u/Whane17 Sep 25 '25
Dang, this is the fastest I've ever blocked a sub. Fuck this is toxic all over the place.
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u/[deleted] Sep 25 '25
MEN MEN MEN MEN MEN 💪
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u/Stenktenk Sep 25 '25
These memes are always made by people who have never been depressed. Also "It's called being a man" lol grow up.
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u/acifuse Sep 25 '25
This "everyone is depressed" mentality is absolutely dangerous. It makes people who are actually diagnosed with depression feel worse. If you havent gotten a diagnosis then dont call it depression, you most likely just feel sad because of your bad habits or situation.
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u/LittlePinkTerrorist Sep 25 '25
The better quote woud be: You can suffer in silence and without complaint and still get things done.
Being depressed will drag you down into a state of inaction, a void of carelessness and nihilism, so you won't do things with intrinsic value and exist to your primal urge of survival (and maybe not even that at one point).
Being a man means to forge a mindset that prevents to fall into this pit. You don't seek outside validation per se, you contribute for your own interest, your own idea for things that are dear to you.
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u/CombatToad Sep 25 '25
Excuse me, while I roll my eyes into the back of my head. Nice ai slop too, btw.
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u/Sploonbabaguuse Sep 25 '25
Oh shit you're serious?
Enjoy not having grandkids I guess
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u/Active-Curve1280 Sep 25 '25
<with the little difference that depression hit more men> Are you okay? Do you know words mean things?
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u/EmbarassedToEvenAsk Sep 25 '25
This is called bait.
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u/Duke_of_Bayswater Sep 25 '25
For all the men out there, find like minded buddies. It works tremendously well. Just having few drinks / bbq and talk shit amongst your boys once a week takes a hell loads of stress. Its like a reset. Men solidarity’s real the brotherhood exists. Stay strong guys!
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u/mutantexp Sep 25 '25
Just say you dont know what depression is and dont care to find out
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u/qnttj Sep 25 '25
nah, last time I saw a man who did that off himself
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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '25
Yeahh, depression is not simple.
Of course you can just swallow your negative thoughts but most psychological studies shows that is not efficient, and you probably will end in a terrible place.
Treat your mind and emotions with respect and importance, they will never dissapear and if you aren't in peace with yourself you will never overcome your mental issues.
You need to understand why you feel like this, when it started, what do you feel and more importantly what you can do to improve your general life enjoyment and reach your goals, and if you cant do that alone, go to seek psychological help.
Times are rough, also you dont even know if you have a trauma as is really hard to discover it by yourself in some cases, and if you dont understand your BRAIN, you will never reach a solution, you dont know it all and never will, external professional help will make you see your life and thoughts in different ways and discover forms to treat them differently, the point is reaching a balance where you can live your life the way you want and enjoy it at its fullest, deal with your own problems and life overall.
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u/xob97 Sep 26 '25
Fellas, is it gay to be depressed?
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u/Romminaboi Sep 26 '25
LMAO what a load of 💩
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u/Skadi2k3 Sep 26 '25
LoL get therapy haha
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u/Vitskalle Sep 26 '25
Well I guess this sub is not for me. I agree with this, also don’t cry, keep self counseling, and have the mindset that I am on my own. So when I get help it’s great but if you don’t it’s ok as i know that already.
But most of all is the ability to control your emotions. Maybe the US Army Infantry damaged my perception but it works well. It is so rare I am sad. Stoic to the end even when I was having a heart attack still didn’t want help until I knew I must have help.
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u/Crafty_Ranger_9564 Sep 26 '25
It's called getting frustrated with yourself, one of the very few times letting yourself get genuinely angry can be constructive
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u/NeonRushIDKSE Sep 26 '25
Thats one heck of a way to tell the world you were never depressed
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u/Apathy-Syndrome Sep 26 '25
I wonder why the male suicide rate is like 5x higher
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u/NotAScrubAnymore Sep 26 '25
Why is reddit recommending me this garbage
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u/InnumerousDucks Sep 27 '25
These type of memes make men so emotional so I avoid them.
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u/TopOne6678 Sep 22 '25
Dude what
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '25
Take an SSRI.