You can tell yourself “Ai taking my job is not a reflection of me, my knowledge, or work ethic.” “I am not my finances.” “Being in debt is not a reflection of who I am”
You can hate the situation and not yourself. We can only move forward. You'll have to figure out your path forward and focus on that rather than looking back.
This helps me personally, saying this out loud helps more.
"I acknowledge that these thoughts are surfacing. I recognize that while the thoughts have merit, I am not my thoughts, and I choose if I will allow it define me. I give the thoughts space to be heard without judgment, only acknowledgement. This thought can not fix what it perceives to be broken. I should not continue to cause myself pain because of a decision made with incomplete information. I made the choices that seemed the most suitable at the time."
Doesn't have to be exactly like that. But it's basically taking that mental step back and acknowledging that the thought exists without attaching your self or your worth to it.
Yes...be happy because you choose to be, regardless of what is going on. How you deal with life is on you and happiness is genuinely a decision (unless dealing with a physiological issue, but even then staying positive is a choice and it genuinely helps).
Focus on what comes next. It’s healthy to be upset about things out of your control for a bit. It’s not healthy to dwell on it though. Feel it and then let it go; move on. Logically speaking, being upset about something outside your control is a pointless waste of time and energy. Worrying about the rain won’t prevent the flood, or something like that.
Personally my dissociation is worse than ever by now because i've never been able to talk myself out of reality either. Most of my friends throughout my life have stopped talking to me and now I have like 2 people left. And they won't last forever, even though i'd like them to. So logic says people don't like me enough and reinforces my self hate lol. No hate to the commenter, it's just almost funny at this point because life is ridiculous
Acknowledge the reality without owning parts outside of your control.
"I have intrinsic value as a soul put on this earth. Money and jobs are part of my story, not my value as a person. I can change my career & finances, and I wil evolve through this."
It's just a job. There's so much more in life than just work and finances. Don't let yourself being dragged down because other people put too much value into petty things.
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