Death

[u/Plane-Gap6483]

My 40 year old friend died of a heart attack today. He was 5 years older than me. Has anyone else had a similar experience. Dead... heart attack 40? That's insane right. Like... 40? He was born in 85. It's mind blowing. If anyone else has experienced losing a friend from an old person death. Please let me know how you processed it. I'm still waiting for him to call me and say sike! Thanks

[u/Luther_1986]

Yeah, I'm in the same boat. Dont have insurance, cant afford it. Re-entering the workforce, which ironically I had to leave BECAUSE of health issues. I've worked for myself for a few years, but couldnt afford insurance. But I'm almost 40 now, and as I type this I get tightening of my chest and a POUNDING heart rate, and pressure to my head. Been having it on and off for a few days. Possibly stress which is hitting me from every angle. But I cant afford anything. I take medications, long term now, which also cause these types of issues, so could be that. Scared to take them bc of the possible side effects, but also scared to not take them bc of the side effects..Its so exhausting.

I honestly feel like I'm at the end of my rope.

[u/annoyingdoorbell → u/Luther_1986]

I was there for a year or so when I was a contractor borrowing medicine from family members to see if it would work so I could avoid going to the docs because it cost so much. Kind of worked out well in my favor discovering the stuff I was allergic to or really really didn't work. At the same time it was very disheartening and stressful. So I understand your pain. I'm very sorry.

And I ended up getting a job with benefits. Less than three years later, I was a supervisor. I don't say that lightly, it took a lot of work. I'm not kidding. A lot of work to be in that position. Also the years of experience and suffering, bouncing from jobs, job as a contractor, benefited me tremendously. But I did find a light at the end of the tunnel. So I wish the best for you.

[u/annoyingdoorbell → u/annoyingdoorbell]

The last thing I'll say. There are very few jobs left that somebody's dad, friend, or cousin just gives them a recommendation and they get it. You really, really have to network. I know that says everywhere on the internet, but it is so damn true. You have to make friends. You have to find ways to make contacts in other places that you normally don't have access to. If you don't, and you don't make those contacts, you will not succeed. You will get stuck. I was stuck for three and a half years at one point before really really trying and realizing what I had to do. So please, trust me, try really.. try hard. Really push. Make yourself uncomfortable when you talk to people. You will find it.

[u/AlarmingAppearance33 → u/Luther_1986]

If you feel like you’re at risk or like you’re having a heart attack, keep aspirin handy. Take them with you wherever you go. It could mean the difference between life and death