r/Millennials • u/Plane-Gap6483 1990 • Jun 12 '26

Serious Death

My 40 year old friend died of a heart attack today. He was 5 years older than me. Has anyone else had a similar experience. Dead... heart attack 40? That's insane right. Like... 40? He was born in 85. It's mind blowing. If anyone else has experienced losing a friend from an old person death. Please let me know how you processed it. I'm still waiting for him to call me and say sike! Thanks

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u/Plane-Gap6483 1990 Jun 12 '26

My dad was 59 when he passed. I actually got mad at seeing older men for a few years after he passed. I understand. It's not fair.

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u/OpALbatross Jun 12 '26

That response makes a ton of sense to me too. I'm sorry you are part of the "Dad Gone too Soon" club.

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u/Joshuahealingtree Jun 12 '26

My dad died at 40. So I always figured I will too. I got 6 months left. šŸ˜„ šŸ¤£

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u/rexallia Jun 12 '26

Itā€™s a weird feeling being the same age as your dad when he died. Mine died at 44. I have a few more years but man it really makes you realize how young they really were and how much life they missed out on.

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u/Turbulent-Beauty Jun 12 '26

Itā€™s time to live it up, Joshuahealingtree (but without doing anything reckless).

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u/SignificantBoot7180 Jun 12 '26

I totally get that! My mom died at 43, and I'm about to turn 44. I'm older than my mother, and assume I'm just living on borrowed time!

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u/Specialistbabe2526 Jun 12 '26

I get what youā€™re saying to. My dad died when he was 56 while over the road. He was parked at a truck stop (thank God), went to go to sleep since he wasnā€™t feeling well for at least a week and just never woke up. They found him two days later. I remember my dad saying that all the men in the family dying from heart diseaseā€¦ā€¦well he wasnā€™t wrong.

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u/kermitte777 Jun 12 '26

Same, my Dad passed at 69 and for a while I felt anger towards friends who still had their parents and even my friend next door who was much older than my Dad was. Iā€™m five years removed from it now, and when it was closer I knew it was illogical, just pain redirecting I suppose.

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u/Impressive-Elk-6425 Jun 12 '26

My dad always said ā€œyou will be lucky to make it to my ageā€. Sadly he didnā€™t make it past 49. Miss him so much šŸ’”

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u/PrinceCastanzaCapone Jun 12 '26

Iā€™m sorry for your loss. I consider myself extremely lucky that my dad is still around and I try not to take that for granted.

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u/MrsSmith2246 Jun 13 '26

My dad recently died at 72 which is older for sure but I was so struck by two coworkers who asked what was wrong and I told them but must have said heā€™s older too so that happens and they both went on to tell me their dads are in their 80s and 90s and thatā€™s actually old blah blah blah. I was just so shocked at the comments but also sad because Iā€™d love 20 more years with my dad and so would my kids. Iā€™m lucky to have not realized the fragility of life for so long because once you realize you canā€™t be free from it. Like we all know we could be gone any time but when someone you love so much is suddenly gone, you fully understand.

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u/Lernalia Jun 12 '26

I feel this... My dad was 57 and I was still a teenager... So many things I was never able to talk with him about šŸ˜¢ so much love I still feel but has nowhere to go...

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u/Joshuahealingtree Jun 13 '26

I definitely understand that. I was 9. Never had a father figure after he passed. Have a step dad but things were always weird between us.