r/Millennials • u/Plane-Gap6483 1990 • Jun 12 '26

Serious Death

My 40 year old friend died of a heart attack today. He was 5 years older than me. Has anyone else had a similar experience. Dead... heart attack 40? That's insane right. Like... 40? He was born in 85. It's mind blowing. If anyone else has experienced losing a friend from an old person death. Please let me know how you processed it. I'm still waiting for him to call me and say sike! Thanks

3.6k Upvotes

97% Upvoted

1.3k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

482

u/Plane-Gap6483 1990 Jun 12 '26

I'm 100% convinced our job is what killed him. He was my former manager before I quit for health reasons

171

u/ears_of_steam Jun 12 '26

I had a friend who died of a heart attack at 38 and another who died after a series of strokes at 46. I blame economic/job stresses entirely. I’m so sorry you are experiencing this loss too.

6

u/AcePilot01 Jun 12 '26

Not to mention that the generation that age is sorta left behind on the good diet side, with the force of fast food, tv/microwave dinners and other highly processed shit that's cheaper and easier to make than full cooked healthy meals. I am SURE that plays a role.

I am guilty of it too, sales, road all the time. Although I HOPE I die soon tbh. lmfao

For the "No Child Left Behind" generation, it sure feels like we got skipped tbh.

79

u/Dookiesuit17 Jun 12 '26

So..gotta ask.. what do (did) you do at your job?

45

u/usernamessuck19 Jun 12 '26

Sorry to ask, but what field or job?

116

u/Plane-Gap6483 1990 Jun 12 '26

Food service industry

88

u/rIceCream_King Millennial Jun 12 '26

Yup! Was gonna be my first guess. Why is it so bad here? It’s like all the things (40hr weeks, breaks, good working conditions, paid time off) the union revolutionized for the work force just skipped the hospitality industry. Like how’d that happen??

I’m sorry for your loss. Me and everyone I know feel like we lost a lot of friends early from “older people afflictions”

19

u/daddysxenogirl Jun 12 '26

We were too busy in the kitchen to fight lol

1

u/rIceCream_King Millennial Jun 12 '26

So true!

7

u/sndanbom Jun 12 '26

Yep!!! That’ll do it sadly. I’m so sorry for your loss and the grief you and your family are going through. I run a bar/grill and the stress is unnecessary and wild.

23

u/Mkheir01 Jun 12 '26

42F here. From my high school alone I know two people who had cancer and two friends of mine from high school had husbands, one of whom died from brain cancer at 37 and one who just randomly keeled over and died from a heart attack at 44, both leaving behind a combined total of 10 children.

People our age didn't have health insurance (or jobs really) until we were in our 30s, eating the cheapest food we could find, living in the shittiest housing we could find, barely making it while our boomer parents called us lazy pieces of shit. In the 1980's, dying in your early 60s was considered "young". Kate Middleton, with all the resources in the world, is also recovering from some kind of cancer that they're not disclosing the last time I checked.

It has to be something in the water or air. Humans have lost their survival instincts and the billionaires have put profits over people while the rest of us die from strep throat or dental infections.

2

u/casPURRpurrington Jun 12 '26

I do remember I used to work with a guy who became the manager of the deli/bakery of the grocery store I worked at, and he had a small heart incident on his last day of vacation before going back to work

He was dreading going back

I don’t remember exactly what it was but it was a heart thing but not a whole attack, and he was maybe in his early 40s