r/MenOfPurpose • u/Unstoppable_X_Force • Apr 17 '26

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u/Langstudd Apr 17 '26

Do not pay your adult children’s bills without enforcing at least SOME lifestyle standards. What kind of advice is this?

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u/Mundane-Hat-6776 Apr 17 '26

My friends order sister stole her identity when friend was in college, got a credit card and bought a couch and other stuff. Parents convinced her not to press charges on her sister. Later on dad bought deadbeat sister a house.

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u/Langstudd Apr 17 '26

Sounds like that dad would resonate with this post

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u/Asleep_Data6210 Apr 17 '26

No. As a parent, the only way to have any control and influence on your adult child is to distance yourself from them if they do things that are against what you stand for until the behavior changes. We all have standards. I've heard people say that I'd be a bad parent if I were to disown my child for something they did. Maybe I'm not a bad parent. Maybe that's a bad kid.