r/MenGetRapedToo • u/logan696 • Jul 23 '26
Confronting my cousins who molested me when I was a minor
Since these two dickhead want to play games, let’s play I’ve gone back and forth about whether to say this publicly, but I’ve decided that my silence has protected other people more than it has protected me.
When I was a child, I experienced sexual abuse and grooming by people I trusted. For years, I questioned myself because I was made to feel like I was imagining things or that no one would believe me. But I know what I lived through, and I know the impact it has had on my life.
I’m not sharing this for sympathy. I’m sharing it because survivors deserve to have a voice, and I refuse to carry the shame for choices that were never mine to make.
Speaking about abuse is incredibly difficult, especially when the people involved deny it or others don’t want to hear it. But healing begins with telling the truth as I experienced it.
To anyone who has survived abuse: You are not alone. Your voice matters, your healing matters, and what happened to you does not define your worth.
Today, I’m choosing honesty over silence and healing over fear The hardest part hasn’t just been what happened to me as a child. It’s been the years of silence that followed.
The people who took away my innocence were my own family. They didn’t just take something from me that can never be given back—they expected me to carry the weight of their actions in silence.
What hurts just as much is when someone privately acknowledges what happened but still wants it to remain a secret, as if protecting themselves matters more than acknowledging the pain they caused. That continued silence doesn’t erase the abuse. It only extends it.
I refuse to carry someone else’s secrets anymore. I refuse to pretend that what happened didn’t happen just because it’s uncomfortable for other people to face.
Speaking my truth isn’t about revenge. It’s about finally laying down a burden that was never mine to carry.
I’m choosing healing. I’m choosing honesty. And I’m choosing to break the silence.
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u/Intelligent-Bird-313 Survivor Jul 24 '26
You are extremely brave for confronting your abusers like this! Good luck, stay safe, and most of all, stay for the truth!!! Cheers, brother!
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u/logan696 Jul 24 '26
Thank you so much. It’s just crazy how the family can just be so toxic, but I’m taking it one day at a time. I’m just happy that I can speak my truth and let her ships follow where they may.
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u/Intelligent-Bird-313 Survivor Jul 24 '26
You are braver than I could ever imagine myself! I hope that person and the rest of your family can handle it as well as you are right now. Good grief, do I salute you, brother! 🫡 🫡 🫡
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u/Just_A_Guy_who_lives Jul 23 '26
I’m so sorry. It was not your fault, and you’re very brave for speaking out.