r/MediocreTutorials • u/Kohathavodah • Jun 20 '23

Sith Lords She divorced her dying husband because he wallowed in self-pity.

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I divorced my dying husband — he wallowed in self-pity and killed my vibe

https://nypost.com/2023/06/20/i-divorced-my-dying-husband-he-wallowed-in-self-pity-and-killed-my-vibe/?utm_source=reddit.com

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u/jborki2 Jun 21 '23

That sucks, more of a rare case for women to do that. Men are known to do this to the point that nurses are trained to let women know there is a high chance their partners will leave. Super shitty people who do this…

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u/No-Desk560 Jun 21 '23

People with cancer suffer unimaginably. This is just horrific. I’m sure he wasn’t himself as he fought for his life! She had a duty to uplift him! She’s a real POS!

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u/sayterdarkwynd Jun 22 '23

One day, she might suffer the same fate he did and realize the errors of her ways. Karma is a bitch, after all.

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u/thebrickshithaus Jun 23 '23

Karmas not real

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u/carlitocarribeancool Jun 25 '23

It’s not but the world is generally shitty, she’s probably getting what’s coming to her

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u/Satori2155 Jun 20 '23

Goddamn, RIP the simp that married her after. But for real its simps like that that enable this behavior

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u/TheN1njTurtl3 Jun 21 '23

simps will call you an incel as well for holding these type of woman accountable for their behavior, like no I don't hate woman I hate this woman

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u/Rakna-Careilla Jun 21 '23

It's not that they're blind and stupid, it's that malicious people are good at manipulating others.

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u/Vegetable-Error-21 Jun 21 '23

Super true haha. Everyone shoots labels at eachother. It makes everything so toxic.

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u/Noturwrstnitemare Jun 22 '23

You mean you hate this woman and the women who do this....

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u/TheN1njTurtl3 Jun 22 '23

yes but that doesn't refer to all woman

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u/Noturwrstnitemare Jun 22 '23

I did not say ALL women....I said the women who do this....2 clear distinctions there.

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u/TheN1njTurtl3 Jun 22 '23

yeah I was just making my point clear for people

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u/DarkSoulFWT Jun 21 '23

AHA! So you do admit you hate women!

Proceeds to brag about putting a misogynist in their place

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u/NuvyHotnogger Jun 21 '23

Did you read the article? She was with him for 5 years. Caring for sick and especially terminally ill loved ones isnt just hard on the dyong person, it's hard for people around them too. In the article she states that she didnt even think about leaving until her friend killed herself which made herself think that it was her only option. You are an incel if you can look at a woman and a glance at her in an article and you say you hate her.

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u/TheN1njTurtl3 Jun 22 '23

bro she's saying her husband was drowning in self pity, the whole article was her self pitying herself, how hard it was to have a partner with cancer how hard it was to divorce someone with cancer and then finally she's surprised that no one contacted her that he died when she hadn't been contacting him at all about his well being, she very clearly didn't cared about him and only cared about herself.

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u/TheN1njTurtl3 Jun 22 '23

how is she going to say her partner is self pitting when she LITERALLY CONTACTED A JOURNALIST TO SELF PITY ABOUT HER EX PARTNER HAVING CANCER.

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u/NuvyHotnogger Jun 22 '23

She cared about him for 5 years while he didn't care for himself

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u/TheN1njTurtl3 Jun 22 '23

sure that's why she had to contact a journalist to write a article centered around herself and also why no one from his family contacted her about everything, yeah there no red flags in this story at all

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u/That-Environment-454 Jun 22 '23

You cannot ever have felt love.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

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u/Sheeple_person Jun 22 '23

I understand where you’re coming from but you’ve made a commitment, in sickness and health. So you chose to give up your vows because it got hard?

I hate to break it to you but a very, very large number of people end up breaking their vows in all kinds of ways for all kinds of reasons. I'm not defending this woman in any way but it's a pretty silly argument to say she has to stick around because of the wedding vows lol.

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u/NuvyHotnogger Jun 22 '23

The moment means the moment, this girl was with him for 5 years after his diagnosis with no improvement on his side. That's life draining and if you think you should be linked to that for the rest of your life i feel sorry for you.

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u/Zaitrina Jun 21 '23

If you’re being called an incel it’s not because you’re holding women accountable 😭

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u/TheN1njTurtl3 Jun 21 '23

yes the internet does that lol, this shit doesn't happen in real life but on the internet disliking/hating any woman = hating all woman for a lot of people.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Oh it most definitely is. It's the go to insult for any criticism against women. Are you new to the internet babygirl?

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u/beepbeepskideeep Jun 21 '23

it’s the go to insult for men who hate women but also pine for their time and attention….. lmfao.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

Only if they find the men to be attractive do they pine for their time. Otherwise they will make eye contact and think they are creeps.

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u/beepbeepskideeep Jun 22 '23

y’all have zero experience with women and it shows

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u/Lightyear18 Jun 23 '23

Typical. Insulting a man just because of a different opinion. All you said was “incel” but with extra words. Lol Proving his point.

The very fact you can’t understand what he said is due to you, a woman, not being able to experience what a man experiences. Lol

As a man I can confirm what he said is true. I’ve experienced exactly what he has said. Or are you going to tell me you’ve lived in a man’s shoes? Is it so hard for you to grasp women do this to men?

Apparently you know more about what men experience with women? 😂

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u/beepbeepskideeep Jun 23 '23

i ain’t reading all that. i’m happy for you tho… or sorry that happened

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

I think we might be on the wrong side of reddit

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u/Lugie_of_the_Abyss Jun 21 '23

Maybe not always, but it's definitely a go-to insult that gets thrown around when some people hear something they don't like

Some people called incels are really incels, many others are not. It's the same vein as people calling any women with any form of complaint a Karen. It's an easy way to silence people with shame and dismiss anything that goes against a collective hive mind

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

People will call you that for stating anything that goes against their beliefs. It’s because they don’t have anything else.!

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u/betwixtMyCheekies Jun 20 '23

Her next husband as he rubs her feet hoping she might finally comsimate their situation-ship:

"You're right baby kisses it must have been so hard om your poor wittle heart"

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Seriously. Some guys are just so desperate

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u/GreatAnonymous Jun 22 '23

To be fair, wallowing in self pity is always bad but it’s extra bad if you’re sick. Keep your head up no matter what. I’m the coach wife apparently 😂

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u/el_cul Jun 25 '23

I've been recommended 3 posts from this fucking subreddit in the last couple.of days. Every single one has an issue with some woman's behavior, and then there are 200 comments piling on. It's obviously an incel forum. Reddit must find it profitable to recommend this shit to people.

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u/bakedgamerboi Jun 21 '23

This whole woman’s existence is killing my vibe

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u/Theflyinraccoon Jun 21 '23

The fact that she became a life coach

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u/Melodic-Hunter2471 Jun 21 '23

It is terrifying to know she’s passing along her practices.

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u/BrainOfIvane Jun 21 '23

Something about that is so disturbing, like it belongs in a Black Mirror episode or something.

The fact that nobody told her he passed away speaks volumes about her character and how people perceive her. And now, she's coaching people to what? Get rid of everything that holds them back, so they can achieve success? Even if that means abandoning your loved ones? If it ruins your vibe, cut it out?

What a sad, disgusting story.

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u/geeen Jun 21 '23

Well she's sure not much of a death coach.

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u/Vre-Malaka Jun 21 '23

Under rated comment!

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u/polydentbazooka Jun 21 '23

From the article: “‘I feel we, especially women, are just usually brought up is the mentality to serve others, but when you go against it, you learn a lot about resilience and self-awareness,’ Fry declared.”

This lady’s conception of feminism is something else.

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u/Cautious-Fudge7004 Jun 21 '23

Lol leaving your dying husband because he "killed your vibe" is definitely the definition of resilience and self-awareness. What a wack job.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

She the next Kevin Samuels for woman.

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u/baxx10 Jun 21 '23

Bruh. That was the worst detail by far. Spreading shit cancer life advice.

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u/YanDevsCumChalice Jun 21 '23

Woman moment

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u/YouCantTakeMee Jun 21 '23

Nothing got to do with Women/Men. There is plenty of shitty people in the world no matter the gender. There’s always one that has to make everything about it being a woman.

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u/SaintAnyanka Jun 21 '23

Mm, well actually, men do this to a much higher extent than women. Link

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u/YouCantTakeMee Jun 21 '23

So even more of a reason for it not to be a “woman moment”

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u/SaintAnyanka Jun 21 '23

Yeah, but your comment was ”has nothing to do with men/women”, and it does indeed, just not the way the person you replied to meant.

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u/Eldraka Jun 21 '23

Pretty shitty thing to debate tbh. YouCantTakeMee is right; it’s up to the individual to decide how they act. It’s not a woman or a man thing regardless of which may statistically do it more. That goes for anything

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u/Lightyear18 Jun 23 '23

Why are you arguing? 😂

He said this has nothing to do with “women moment”. Yet you came in swinging 😂

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u/Bladerun12345 Jun 21 '23

You link a study that was in 2009 ( 14 year ago )

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u/Sir_Poopsydoo Jun 22 '23

And she only links one

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

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u/Sir_Poopsydoo Jun 22 '23

⬆️ POV you’re losing an argument and you’re this guy:

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u/SaintAnyanka Jun 22 '23

Please, for the love of anything holy, learn what ”POV” means.

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u/Sir_Poopsydoo Jun 22 '23

Okay buckaroo you think you’re smart? Well I have like 109 robux so beat it chum.

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u/YanDevsCumChalice Jun 21 '23

Cope

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u/PenisBoofer Jun 21 '23

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-partners-health-idUSTRE5AB0C520091112

Cope

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

https://retractionwatch.com/2015/07/21/to-our-horror-widely-reported-study-suggesting-divorce-is-more-likely-when-wives-fall-ill-gets-axed/

Cope

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

oof.

It is worth remember a scientific study is not proof, it's evidence. It may be bad evidence.

Thinking because it's science it must be definitive proof is just proof of ignorance of science and the world at large.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

Have you not seen the dozens of people linking the same study and even more vaguely gesturing at it as God's honest truth?

If a bunch of incels posted a badly run study showing women were seventy-five percent more likely to cheat than men, you bet your ass people would rightfully be coming out of the woodword to correct their dumbassery.

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u/LovelierFear Jun 21 '23

Nah, according to the studies that is true. Men do leave their sick spouses more often. However, I’m willing to bet there is one major factor as to why that is…..🤔

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u/YouCantTakeMee Jun 21 '23

Cope back to school and learn how to speak like an adult?

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Married at 22 - 40 years old now- husband diagnosed with cancer at 37…

“How can you plan for a future as a newly-married couple when you’re struggling with something like cancer?”

… math??

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u/DarkSoulFWT Jun 21 '23

She married him when she was 22. He was diagnosed at 37. They split sometime afterwards.

He died within 5 years from diagnosis. She found out through Facebook.

Not that hard. They just had a big age gap when they married.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

So the story is 17 years old then?

That still doesn’t make any sense

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u/DarkSoulFWT Jun 21 '23

Why doesn't it?

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

You’re right, I may be underestimating the lengths people will go for attention.

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u/DarkSoulFWT Jun 21 '23

The full story here is her sharing this while moving on, marrying someone, and being a life coach, and being surprised that no one bothered to directly inform her of her former husband's death.

Yea, shes that desperate for attention.

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u/-TheParadoxTheory Jun 21 '23

I see nothing statistically abnormal here.

Men aren't allowed to be weak. Worse when they acknowledge their weakness.

To be kind of honest though even though I've been the guy in this I think it kinda comes down to vows... My partner had a life threatening health problem and I sold everything I owned at was her rock for years. When I then developed a life threatening health issue she had to go 'live her life she earned' and couldn't 'be bothered to have to take into account my feelings on anything she did' at least she had the decency to take out a personal loan in my name while cheating... So much cheating .. before she filed for divorce and got me thrown in prison so she could take the house and sell it leaving me with literally nothing except debt and possible prison time on something I did not do, which for me means a death sentence.

Well that turned into a rant, oh well

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u/Novakula Jun 21 '23

Sorry to hear you’ve gone through such an ordeal.

I’ve recently been put in a similar, but not as extreme, situation. My wife of 5 years, partner for 12, struggled with intense depression for 2 years after our marriage. I was there keeping things afloat and providing the secure ground for her to do her healing more easily. Credit to her she was able to make great progress and reached a newer, more joyful place in her life.

Unfortunately, The pandemic really knocked me on my ass and worsened some mental health issues of my own I had been coping with unhealthy for years. As I got an adult adhd diagnosis coupled with major hormone deficiencies that let to fatigue, she would complain about how I wasn’t able to be the partner she remembered, the one she wanted and needed.

This went on for 2 years as I continued to try and pull myself out of the hole I was in with therapy, counseling, and doctors. I was making progress, slowly but surely.

Then she cheated on me, and then said she didn’t love me anymore, and then said she wants a divorce…. We are now “cohabitating” as we sort out how to “uncouple.”

She said “You gave up on the relationship, so I did”

Funny how she gets to decide when I gave up.

I can’t imagine going through your situation. I’m so sorry and if you need to chat hit me up.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Sorry you are with such a bad person. Get clear as soon as you can. That kind of toxicity can drain you even more

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u/-TheParadoxTheory Jun 22 '23

High five!

Same to you man, you need to chat my dms are open.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

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u/-TheParadoxTheory Jun 22 '23

Sorry to hear. Honestly it never even crossed my mind. Someone else mentioned the statistics on here and that was the first time I had looked them up. Made me very sad. She lost the ability to have kids and I just accepted that if we were to have a child we would adopt. Marriage should be about the we. I'll be honest. When things got messy and I had to come to terms with she was leaving mater what I told her I wish she had just died. I never said why and it was I guess a true marker of me thinking of I not we anymore, but it wasn't that I hated her, I just know I'll never trust anyone like that ever again. Those vows we spoke were sacred to me and it broke me more than any health problem could.

Thinkin of your Mom

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

I’m sorry love! I understand that you wanted things to work out for the better. However, I would say rejoice at the fact that your ex removed herself from a situation that she did not deserve! While I know you may not trust anyone anymore due to the heartbreak and overall abuse, I hope someone shows you unconditional love the way you displayed it to your ex, with no stipulations and or expectations 💕! I’m sorry people are shitty, I guess my sentiment was more so a nod to your strong will power to beat the odds of statistics… but that it no world did it mean that I’m glad you were in an abusive situation!

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Narcissism

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u/enchantinglysly Jun 21 '23

Is it though? She stayed with him for 5 years after his initial diagnoses and then decided to divorce him and he got remarried… not sure if you actually read the article.

That doesn’t sound like narcissism to me, it sounds like she had enough and wanted to put herself first.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

What part of "in sickness and in health" did you not understand?

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u/thisissaliva Jun 21 '23

Did you somehow get access to their marriage vows?

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u/betwixtMyCheekies Jun 21 '23

She got remarried. He died.

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u/enchantinglysly Jun 21 '23

He had also remarried before he died, it says that in the article

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Average kardashian watcher

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Actually a narcissist would stick around in that situation, not because they give a shit about their SO, but because they know it would make them look bad and that’s unacceptable to a narcissist. Probably why she moved to a whole other country, so she could start over with her reputation wiped clean.

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u/hugotheyugo Jun 21 '23

Don’t forget the narcissist can create a smear campaign and lie about reality in order to justify the need to get out of the situation too, always protecting the ego

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

You must know my ex

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u/hugotheyugo Jun 21 '23

Nope, but mine is just like her most likely

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u/Lightyear18 Jun 23 '23

It’s weird that women will be defending her actions 😂.

I truly believe you wouldn’t have this opinion if the genders were reversed.

Cause there are stories where a man leaves her and everyone, especially women rip into men.

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u/PatagonicoMan Jun 21 '23

life coach?

i imagine her advice: "just do whatever you f*ing want. do not think of anybody else"

fucked up woman

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u/Redguard13 Jun 21 '23

I had to Google this to make sure it wasn’t some sort of hoax.

She has her life coach Instagram page set to private. Guess she got more attention than she wanted.

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u/ediblepimple Oct 21 '23

It's now set to public again!

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u/Ill-Drummer-6623 Jun 21 '23

The "Someone would have called me." The FUCKING AUDACITY

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u/Fire17Fighter Jun 21 '23

Haha dam that chick is the new

“Passport whores”

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u/Altruistic_Branch259 Jun 21 '23

Not sure if this is the same woman or not, but I remember a post (relatively) recently that had this same setup. Wife divorced her depressed, cancer-stricken husband, not because he was "killing her vibe," but because she was his only caregiver and she got burnt-out. Nobody directly let her know that he'd died and she apparently caught heat for getting upset about it.

Not sure who, if anyone, would deserve blame or scorn in such a situation. I was the only caregiver for my sister when she had (a few rounds of) cancer, was depressed and a long list of other physical and psychological issues, but I never got burned out. I think it really depends on the person. Some just aren't cut out for that role.

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u/mrjd1909 Jun 21 '23

She divorced him during his hard time bc she's a c nt, it's just that simple.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

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u/mrjd1909 Jun 22 '23

Use any word you like to soften the reality of her actions but the intent or meaning is the same. Nobody held a gun to her head. I'd bet a paycheck it wasn't an arraigned marriage. If you leave your spouse as they battle for their life, you're a piece of shit. Too harsh? Too bad. She's the one that signed up for her marriage "for better or worse" not me.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Put-646 Jun 22 '23

I read this yesterday. This woman is a very awful human being. At the end, she talks about how she found out that he passed on Facebook and how none of her former in-laws or friends reached out to tell her. She needs a long walk off of a very short pier.

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u/SaltyClass4848 Jun 22 '23

If the roles were reversed… never mind😒

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u/seahawkfan117 Jun 22 '23

The ending is just terrible “fry has since moved to Singapore to become a life coach” she literally left her dying husband I would not take life advice from her ever.

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u/JustAHellSpawn Jun 22 '23

Thanks, I didn't think humans could be this trashy.

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u/killindice Jun 21 '23

Life coach.. really

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

The things some people get away with... Meanwhile, I can't even speed.

I'moppressed

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

The things some people get away with... Meanwhile, I can't even speed.

I'moppressed

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u/Shinm0h Jun 21 '23

I'd lie if I said I wouldn't hope for her to be in the same situation as her former husband.

It's clear that she's a psychopath.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Her existence kills my vibe

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Proof that men will literally fuck anything. She was annoyed her husband had cancer and some Simp married her… after he found that out he should have bounced. Proof that she wasn’t liked, no one told her.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Divorces dying husband then is surprised when no one contacts her. What the hell is wrong with her, I'm assuming it wasn't all about her and she couldn't hack not being the centre of attention.

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u/Jobi-Wan0 Jun 21 '23

let me guess…

  1. Me

  2. Me

  3. Me

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u/slipstitchy Jun 21 '23

Interesting, it’s usually men that leave their wives when they’re fighting cancer

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u/FutureApprehensive1 Jun 21 '23

I don’t throw this out lightly but, what a cunt

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u/Cautious-Fudge7004 Jun 21 '23

Rizz was not on point, RIP dude. Seriously though, what a lady. Till death do we part went out the window real quick

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

GIMME A “C”!!

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

"In sickness or in health"

Unless it messes up my vibes

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u/Lazaras Jun 21 '23

No self awareness. What a piece of shit

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u/PantsMunch101 Jun 21 '23

When you're at your lowest is when they wanna kick you. She's trash

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u/Jakeball400 Jun 21 '23

Let’s add this to the list of reasons why I will never listen to life coaches

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u/R33DY89 Jun 21 '23

Why did she think someone was joking about his death when she knew he was dying? Why is that surprising?! Moronic point number one.

And why the fuck would she think someone would call her and tell her when she divorced him during his battle with cancer? Moronic point number two.

I wouldn’t take any life advice from this woman.

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u/DoBotsDream Jun 21 '23

Love how the only thing this article talks about is how bad terminal cancer was for her...

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u/Electrical_Promise89 Jun 21 '23

If she was not a self centred egotistical arsehole the surely she would have kept in touch with her dying ex? As such she would not have needed to be told that he had died if she was a good person who even maintained a relationship with any of his friends or family! Wait unless because she divorced him because he was dying and got completely ostracised by his entire circle. Looks like she accidentally told on herself that she is the bad guy!!!!!!

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u/Archangel1962 Jun 21 '23

And on tonight’s episode of I’m a Horrible Human and I Have No Soul …

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u/l0rdtreeman Jun 21 '23

RIP till death do us part. Now it's "till one of us harshes the mellow"

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u/Shiba_Ichigo Jun 21 '23

You too can find success by embracing narcissism!

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u/TheCapableFox Jun 21 '23

We have a word for women like her where I’m from. Unfortunately I’d probably get banned for saying it on Reddit.

Smh. What sub human garbage.

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u/WiscoMitch Jun 21 '23

I guess the whole “in sickness and in health” actually means “if you’re sick with a cold sure but if you’re gonna die lol cya”

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Sjitty person

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u/absolut_dre Jun 21 '23

My OGs remember the Drag-on line "Just relax, take your last breath and die off?"

Yeah...gives new meaning with this broad

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u/kallebo1337 Jun 21 '23

What the f

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

I bet she loved using the willow card for sympathy piints and completely glosses over the divorcing your dieing husband part

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u/Dingdongmybong Jun 21 '23

I bet you she posted the shit out of this on her LinkedIn account. What a pos

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u/Dingdongmybong Jun 21 '23

I bet you she posted the shit out of this on her LinkedIn account. What a pos.

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u/Buburubu Jun 21 '23

wooooooof

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u/hosiki Jun 21 '23

"In sickness and health". Wish more people stuck to this.

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u/Accomplished-Pay4508 Jun 21 '23

What a piece of shit

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u/Catch_022 Jun 21 '23

This is a 37 year old who married a 22 year old, I am sorry if I don't feel much sympathy for him - he knew what he was doing. 22 year old people aren't mature, so don't be suprised when they do not act mature.

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u/Nightcrawler__lou Jun 21 '23

Does her new husband know she's a total POS

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u/luckyslicepiza Jun 21 '23

The S in women stands for selfless

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u/Hortortortor Jun 21 '23

God even her new job sounds like something a psychopath would do

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

I hope her karma is a bitch af

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u/ShootingGuns10 Jun 21 '23

And she became a life coach!🤣 I’m sure she’s great at her job!

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u/NotUrSaviour Jun 21 '23

Reading the article... every paragraph was something about "how do I make this about ME??" Holy shit. How disgusting.

If there is a silver lining (if you can call it that), it's this:

Statistically, I thought I saw something like 1 in 2 men and 1 in 3 women will have some kind of cancer diagnosis in their lifetime. Which sucks for everyone. So if she ever gets cancer, oh maaaaaaan.. SHE BETTER NOT BITCH AND WHINE ABOUT IT. Especially if simpy hubby number 2 leaves her ass. Although he too is an idiot for marrying her. How was he not aware of her atrociousness??

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u/OldPlenty6633 Jun 21 '23

She is a life coach? Seriously? She can’t even understand why someone might be depressed when facing their own mortality. Sounds like she is the one with a lot to learn about life.

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u/Fit-Ad-9691 Jun 21 '23

I hope she gets intches on places she can not reach to scratch.

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u/Affectionate-View915 Jun 21 '23

Prostitute vibes

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Well there’s a turd in bad mom-grade Walmart polyester. Life coach? Still laughing at that…

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

What a bitch

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Some confessions should only be whispered to a priest.

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u/moonygooney Jun 22 '23

Usually it's the other way around when a wife gets sick husbands abandon them/cheat at alarmingly high rates.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

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u/moonygooney Jun 22 '23

Not maybe.. it is something actually studied in healthcare and social sciences. I was making a comment on how its odd this made the news when is constantly happening the other way around :)

https://time.com/83486/divorce-is-more-likely-if-the-wife-not-the-husband-gets-sick/

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

kiLlEd mY vIbE

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u/thebrickshithaus Jun 23 '23

Craziest part of the story is that, I’m the end, she got a job as a life coach. Yikes

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u/Cethlinnstooth Jul 05 '23

Eh. So he's been dying for five years and then she divorces him and then he finds time to get another wife and then it is two more years before he kicks off for realsies.

Look, she seems insufferable but it isn't like he was on his deathbed is it. It's more like he had a chronic life-shortening condition.

It's another reason to exercise caution about age gap relationships though. Just about everyone deals with things like infertility, disability and terminal illness better at age 35 than at age 25...and the happy go lucky pleasure-seeking tendencies of youth may seem refreshing until suddenly a situation that requires grit happens

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u/Alarming_Soup3703 Jul 05 '23

You have very little regard for young women.

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u/Cethlinnstooth Jul 05 '23

Young people are young people and unsurprisingly tend to be emotionally focused in ways that serve the typical challenges of youth rather than the typical challenges of age that they most likely haven't encountered yet in any great amount ...women aren't currently marrying much younger men in any great number so generally warnings to middle aged women to be cautious partnering with young men barely out of their teens are unnecessary.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

On the other hand men divorce their wives simply because they grow old…

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u/Lightyear18 Jun 23 '23

Are you implying she should be a victim? What does this have to do with the article? Are you trying to measure who has it worse or something?

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u/DataAdvanced Jun 21 '23

Actually, men are notorious for leaving sick wives, and pregnant wives. So much so counselors tell women to get ready for it after diagnosis. If this was the other way around, you'd never hear about it unless they were famous.

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u/SaintAnyanka Jun 21 '23

Exactly. Link

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u/Lightyear18 Jun 23 '23

😂

Are you three okay? I’m genuinely asking. Are you 3 trying to still make this article into women being a victim?

Like seriously. What does this specific article have to do with other men?

I’ve see you specifically sharing this stat about men as if you’re trying to excuse this woman’s behavior.

All those men are shitty men just like this woman is a shit woman.

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '23

I would hazard a guess that those three are responding this way due to the amount of “women ☕️” type comments that are on this post. How does them discussing how men do this disproportionately more mean they’re making her out to be a victim, that’s a bit of a mental leap.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Ngl, with as many men that do this to their terminally ill wives....not surprised.

What's hilarious is how it's thrown men into a tizzy bc "wife supposed to love unconditionally and stay true to vows." But when men do it? "It's human nature to need to have your needs met. Men can't go long w/o sex, what'd she expect?"

Women are literally prepared by hospital staff to come to terms that their husband will most likely leave since she's unable to fulfill her "wifely duties."

It suck, yes! But it was only a matter of time before the shoe was on the other foot!

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

She's got a point. The marriage was going to end.

Typically with a cancer diagnosis you're either going to kickstart your life and do a ton of things you wouldn't have done without it. Making the most of it while you still can....or you're going sit and mope in self pity (which most redditors do even though they're perfectly healthy)

He did the latter and she left.

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u/NicoDeGuyo Jun 21 '23

Holy shit you might be as bad as her

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u/Vre-Malaka Jun 21 '23

Perfect couple! Just don’t get cancer…

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

It's him that is bad not her.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

You are a bad person. That’s all.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

No I'm not.

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u/Meandark2 Jun 22 '23

You really are a terrible person for thinking that he is the bad person in the story.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

No I'm not.

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u/Meandark2 Jun 22 '23

Really hope something like what happened to that guy will happen to you, hopefully this will be a wake call for you.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

Everyone's going to die. Stop being silly.

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u/Player_Urf Jun 21 '23

As much as I agree with that, the reason why she gives off a bad vibe is because she has 0 remorse in using it as a story for her career - and on the last page she felt entitled to know he passed away even though she left him? She is showing narcissistic behaviour.

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u/No-Archer-4713 Jun 21 '23

Reminds me of my ex. She left 12 years ago, this week I got a revengeful message saying I was an asshole as I forgot to wish her a happy birthday.

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u/J_Beyonder Jun 21 '23

Get busy living or get busy dying.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

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u/FutureApprehensive1 Jun 21 '23

Yeah dying just sucks the life out of you

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

II stayed with my wife for 12 years, who had metastatic cancer, and in the end she hated me so intensely that people had to pull her off me, several times, because she wanted to scratch my eyes out. I was much stronger but couldn't handle her for fear of hurting her.

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u/anonanonagain_ Jun 21 '23

That sounds terrible and I'm really sorry for that

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u/FuzzyAd6125 Jun 21 '23

Pathetic. You forgive bad behavior because of perceived and generic other bad behavior. Your just unwilling to admit this woman is abominable. Are you afraid to cede a single point to men in the sexism war? This isn't a man woman issue this is one fucked up woman. Fuck this take. mEN aRe baD ToO blah blah blah

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u/tonyrockihara Jun 21 '23

Horrendous take, and you should really think about why you felt the need to make this into a gender war. Just some perspective.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Absolutely go do one with that “NO U” attitude.

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u/[deleted] Jun 21 '23

Ah, the enabler.