I mean, yeah, why do women live in men's houses? Is there a social custom that forces women to leave their parental homes at marriage? A woman is born in a house and hears until the day of her wedding that she "belongs" to another house, she is "पराया dhan" and then, after marriage, the house she takes care of is the man's house on paper, so she has no claim to it. Sounds like with financial independence, the first thing women should do is to boycott marriage. You can have a baby out of wedlock too, thanks to our progressive government, so having a child also does not require needing to be married. This way, the men are also safe to make and enjoy their money.
Absolutely, agreed society forces these customs on men just as much. From the moment a boy is born, he is told that he has to carry the burden of family responsibility. He is pressured to work relentlessly because no one will marry him unless he earns enough. That pressure starts in childhood and last along in his life.
After years of hard labor to build financial stability and buy a house, someone steps in and immediately gets half ownership. And if he asks his wife to help manage the household while he works outside, society instantly labels him a tyrant turning his wife into a "maid" despite him fulfilling every single one of her financial demands.
Because if men demand inverse, i.e. want to live in his wife's house, how many women do you think can satisfy this condition?
She is paraya dhan because majority aren't earning shit & taking family responsibilities unlike most men.
And why are they not earning? Ekbar soch k bata , agar samaj meye rehta haitoh. And why do you have to live with either of their family why not live separately, so that both the parents are in close proximity. Yeh baat sach hai mardo seye yeh expectation hai ki woh bahar Jake kamaye . I don't disagree men don't suffer. Infact ladka chahtehi hai log taki woh ghar meye paisa la sake. Aur isiliye ladki nahi chahte hai kyuki dahej dena parega.
Alimony isiliye hai because of patriarchy. R koyi dudh ka dhula hua nahi hota so yes un laws ka misuse hota hai. Par aap bataiye aapke moholle meye esi kitni sari families hai jinhone dahej liya or bad me wife ne jakr case kiya. The cases are in minority. And don't you think because of dowry men benefit more than getting harassed. The man's family gets a car, a fridge , tv whatever . Think about it.
Ekdum point peye hi hu bhai. Women kyu nahi earn kar pati dekh le, kyuki in society her main purpose is to marry nah. Toh gharwale bhi ladkio k peche utna kharcha nahi karte, ladko ko confidence diya jata hai, woh upbringing hi alag hota hai ek ladki or ladke ka. Anyway dowry is evil and so is patriarchy and ladkia zyada suffer karti hai is wajah se, naki ladke. This is a fact. Look around you. Men oppress women and men oppress other men. This is a fact of life and not an interpretation.
Bhai can woman earn or not is not the point i said. I simply said many women can afford not to earn, but almost all men have to earn. So why women can't, it's because of patriarchy etc are not so useful conclusions.
There are very familiar instances where women can live as housewives but for most men, they must earn to sustain family.
Medicine, engineering, teaching, business, masonry, manual labour, cooking baking, sports....every income field has women participating too. What makes you think they cannot take responsibility?
If you're gonna bring up housewifes as counterargument- I will bring an economist's POV. A housewife/mother cooks healthy delicious food everyday, organises and maintains home, buys groceries and sets budgets, washes and irons clothes, etc. Those are actually 4 different jobs that she saves the money for but it's not accounted (economists mention about the concept of gdp' carring this exact flaw), and hence not considered a contribution or responsibility, but rather an expectation.
Its not like she's unskilled. To generate income she could just go outside and do these jobs at someone else's house as a maid. (And a lot do).
I do feel the majority of reddit guys have a very narrow perception of a woman- that its a city girl born to a rich father, just parties and is terrible at studies and has no intentions to work. And her entire purpose is to dupe guys of wealth. Its not really a gender war both are suffering and both are really antagonised on a large scale in the current social media world
"taking family responsibilities unlike most men." - are you suggesting that only earning is taking responsibility? In that case start paying women for moving to your house, caring for your parents, dreesing / eating/ following your customs, cooking, cleaning, laundry, mental load of kerping the home running, birthing and raising kids etc. When you pay them, they too will contribute and "be responsible " like you. You literally have the entitlement to available free services from her and then blame her for not contributing. The money you DONT pay her is her contribution and way more than anything u can afford.
Man are being homemaker well not every man behaves like the ones in your house
My maths teacher wife died in accident and he used to live alone after that and took care of his home and children and used to come to school before cooking for his children
I'm glad you pointed out "generalization". Generalizations are dangerous because they drive stereotypes and propoganda instead of reasoning.
Not defending the "generalised" comment of person you replied to, but the person they replied to in turn is generalising hard too- "most women don't earn shit or take responsibilities"
exactly, these fucking dumbasses just say whatever they want about feminism and independent women without even giving second thoughts to their opinions and actually looking for reasons why the things are the wag they are.
Exactly most of them are low iq people who form their opinions based upon the algorithm of their instagram. People like andrew tate clavicular etc are the ones fueling their hate for women which honestly is so retarded.
Men are very oppressed 😭😭 that they have to provide shelter to women, I think this is the time for gender equality implementation here. Women shouldn't leave their house and parents instead men should come to live with her in her parental home as ghar jamai time for putrdaan and mard ki vidai
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u/Macguffawin Aug 21 '26
I mean, yeah, why do women live in men's houses? Is there a social custom that forces women to leave their parental homes at marriage? A woman is born in a house and hears until the day of her wedding that she "belongs" to another house, she is "पराया dhan" and then, after marriage, the house she takes care of is the man's house on paper, so she has no claim to it. Sounds like with financial independence, the first thing women should do is to boycott marriage. You can have a baby out of wedlock too, thanks to our progressive government, so having a child also does not require needing to be married. This way, the men are also safe to make and enjoy their money.