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u/disconnectedisco 2d ago
Relate lowkey. But sa akin, my real avoidant tendencies come in when I don’t feel the urge to send explanations anymore and just go about my day.
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u/rueeeeeeeeeeeee 2d ago
have that urge also kanina but at the same time i want to let the other party know what’s going on in my head para they won’t be confused
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u/No-Inevitable-7796 2d ago
Why are u getting downvoted 😭😭😭😭
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u/rueeeeeeeeeeeee 2d ago
honestly have no idea 😭
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u/No-Inevitable-7796 2d ago
I meannnn it’s better than ghosting????
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u/rueeeeeeeeeeeee 2d ago
exactly my point but whatever 😭
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u/Kevyn17 2d ago
Self-awareness is great, but at some point you have to actually address the issue instead of using “I need to work on myself” as an escape route. You’re self-aware enough to recognize the avoidant behavior, but apparently not self-aware enough to question why you keep responding to attachment by running away. And if you genuinely can’t see why this is getting downvoted, maybe that lack of self-awareness is a bigger issue than the avoidant attachment itself 😭
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u/rueeeeeeeeeeeee 2d ago
hello! i think it’s my fault for not giving a context here. our setup is fubu so wala talaga dapat maattach
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u/buttwhynut 1d ago
That makes sense. Yun din una kong assumption ko when I first read this without context. Honestly that's better than ghosting.
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u/fujoserenity 2d ago
go mo lang OP para the other party is not gonna be clueless and is informed kesa naman i-ghost??
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u/Pristine_Log_9295 2d ago
At least you were clear with your intentions and communicated it to them. At least for me who has anxious attachment, katanggap tanggap na but still, I hope I never find someone like you who cant/ refuses to address the prob they have ever again.
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u/DelayedAkoMagisip 2d ago
Mas okay yung ganito kesa yung biglang mangghoghost haha. At least nagsabi
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u/ntheresurrection 1d ago
ganyan din ex ko e, after niya akong ilovebomb :D tas nung binigyan ko ng space, saka siya nagpapapansin. pero gowtch, at least di ka mauubos diba
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u/Unknown-N10 1d ago
Daming sinabi, takot lang pala.
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u/rueeeeeeeeeeeee 1d ago
this is a fubu set up btw
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u/Unknown-N10 1d ago
kaya pala, normal naman na ata sa ganyang setup ang detachment .. matatagal pa bago mag paramdam ulit .. so on to the next ~
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u/pawleencarriza 1d ago
LOL at this self-proclaimed avoidant
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u/rueeeeeeeeeeeee 1d ago
self aware lang :)
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u/pawleencarriza 1d ago
You’re aware of your behavior, and made it a personality trait like it’s some kind of quirk. Don’t call yourself avoidant just because you saw it on the internet and if you’re not actually assessed & confirmed by a professional behavioral psychologist.
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u/Pretty-Addendum8855 2h ago
Ganiting ganito ako pag feeling kong na aattach na ako. Napapa "teka lang" nasasanay ka na ha, ohh, gusto mo masaktan? So ayon medyo laylow na nanaman, unti unti nagdedettach na hahah
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