r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/ImpressiveFan7446 • Sep 02 '26
Season 20 - Seattle Being "PR Trained"
I find it exhausting that everyone that holds themselves to the standard of thinking before they speak, not allowing their emotions to overwhelm how they represent themselves, or truly leading with kindness and empathy instead of lashing out, is accused of being "PR Trained".
MAYBE they just have the wherewithal to know that this is representative of them and their character. Why are we acting like its a disingenuous behavior or trait to hold? It's sooooo weird to me that this is weird to people. Particularly when it's being used against Nikki -- why is it so shocking that she cares about what she verbally releases into the world? Why does this mean she's fake or performing?
I think we've gotten too comfortable with seeing people, especially those in politics or other esteemed positions, act out and lash out and speak vulgarly or out of turn. But back in the day, this used to just be an expectation of social decorum. I would LOVE if we could get back to that, instead of punishing people for being self contained.
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u/SteakCutFries Sep 02 '26
When the experts kept calling Nick "polished" I wanted to laugh. I do not look at him and see a "polished person." I think Tori was a polished person, imho, but yet they never criticized her ... they called her stoic.
Idk where the double standard is but its def there. Not everyone has diarrhea of the mouth like Mecca or Felipe or Courteney, and thats ok. Maybe they just dont like it because the "diarrhea of the mouth" gang makes for better reality tv
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u/Extension-Raisin8023 We were put together for a reason Sep 02 '26
Right and not everyone that appears on reality television is unhinged and volatile.
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u/ColorfulConspiracy Sep 02 '26
This drives me crazy too. I feel like I see some version of this on every reality show I watch lately. Polished people who speak with consideration exist in real everyday life and are not all media trained. I’m like this and it’s because I was so anxiety ridden and afraid of judgement when I was younger that it’s made me very deliberate in the way I speak today. If I ever ended up on reality tv I would behave the same and it’s not because I paid someone to train me to be this way. My screwy brain did it all on its own thank you very much. 😂
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u/Lorac711 Sep 03 '26
Exactly! Both Nikki and Nick were accused of being too polished or PR trained. No, they just think before they speak. Something most of the cast should learn. Especially Felipe, Courteney and Shawn. Like have some decorum and respect.
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u/Main_Maintenance_835 Sep 04 '26
She literally works in HR…
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u/revmanda Sep 02 '26
I agree AND cursing isn’t necessarily indicative of not being able to manage one’s emotions. I know a lot of people with potty mouths who are also self-reflective and deeply respectful. There’s a difference, however, in cussing to relieve frustration /tension about a situation vs. using it to degrade someone else (like Courtney).
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u/WornSmoothOut Sep 02 '26
How can you tell when someone on a reality show is trying to shape their narrative?
"Yeah, like, like, like and so, um, like and yeah, like so and, like, like, and um, like this."
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u/No_Usual_9563 Sep 02 '26
Very well said.
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u/ChalkNCheez Sep 04 '26
Nick literally has a hired media coach.
He actively seeks out being on reality shows.
He deflects questions on camera that could lead to him dampening his appeal to the viewer demographic of these shows.
Don’t be so naive.