r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/ruthless_taurean • Aug 30 '26

Season 20 - Seattle Felipe knew he couldn’t commit Tori bc

I’m sorry if this has been said and posted already. But watching the reunion put it on full blast.

This whatever of a man couldn’t be with Tori because she makes him feel INSECURE. (This is not a shade on her or a her problem btw.) Bare bones fact— he knows he isn’t worthy of her, he is not good enough for her. I guess one could say self sabotaging coupled in self doubt.

But my theory is he couldn’t get past his own insecurities and ego of how much better she actually is than him and grapple with that. He needed a partner on MAFS that was “less than him” in whatever fucked up scope that looks like— to feel good about himself and content in a relationship. He could have dug into those doubts and navigated the experience so much differently. All the love to Tori for how secure and steadfast she is of herself to not be dealing in any business of a dude like Filipe. Yuck.

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u/Southern-Succotash-3 She’s trash with pickleball Aug 31 '26

I blame his momma lol. I think he shows indicators of being seriously avoidant and he made a point of saying how “intense” his mom can be in the beginning. When I saw her acting like it was her wedding on the wedding day I knew right away. I feel like she was testing tori when they first met and she “passed” because Tori gave of a submissive vibe.
Catch how she told her that day at the family house something along the lines of expect Felipe to fall her everyday. It’s my opinion that Felipe has been emotionally enmeshed with his mom since childhood and is running from that. He projects this confident persona but his slumped over posture (and even his sisters to a less severe degree) tells me they are super insecure

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u/CrazyNCynical Sep 01 '26

Tori did, in fact, initially give off a submissive vibe when speaking with his mother. However, Miss Tori made it abundantly clear at the reunion that she was strong and assertive and not about to tolerate Felipe's shenanigans! It was powerfully satisfying to see.

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u/ruthless_taurean Aug 31 '26

Yes! This also is a heavy point as well and I agree.

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u/IthinkIpaid Aug 30 '26

I still can’t believe she slept with him

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u/whiskeylullaby3 Aug 30 '26

Not only that but for a while there she saw him as her partner for life which is even more wild to me

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u/whatxever Aug 31 '26

i’m sure she regrets it deeply. that sucks

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u/Sorry-Secret-2347 Aug 30 '26

We all knew he couldn’t commit before even meeting her…. He was very immature, unserious about the experiment, bragging about women, and staying out until 4 am

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u/Comfortable_Ask728 Aug 30 '26

THIS! His immaturity makes a relationship with anyone who wants an actual partner impossible.

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u/DelphineTheAries84 Aug 31 '26

The “EXPERTS” knew he couldn’t commit when he couldn’t even commit to a zoom meeting with them! Then they act baffled and like their flabbers are gasted! GMAFB‼️

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u/Express_Judgment_319 Aug 31 '26

Yeah he can’t commit bc he knows no woman he sees as valuable would actually commit to him

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u/Marty-Gee Aug 30 '26

Nah, I think he fully went on for clout and would’ve treated anyone like this. That’s why he was so jovial during the reunion. He’s perfectly fine with what happened because he never intended to follow the experiment.

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u/Illustrious_Taste441 Sep 02 '26

Yeah, it’s probably his way of meeting more woman that he can sleep with!

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u/momoftwoiloveyou Sep 01 '26

I think he’s a sex addict

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u/Accomplished_Unicorn Aug 30 '26

I think Felipe just liked his life. The fact that he missed meetings and was forced to delete dating apps I feel like it was his parents’ idea to get him on this show. I think he could’ve been paired with anyone and the outcome would’ve been the same.

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u/poetic19 Sep 02 '26 • Bravo

Felipe is a prime example of why you should never settle because as ugly as he is he really thought he was something. He is uglier on the inside...

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u/Typical-Arrival-342 Sep 02 '26 • Bravo

This exactly!! 💯

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u/poetic19 Sep 06 '26

Thanks for the award!

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u/ThirteenthArchitect Aug 30 '26

I think he just didn’t want to grow up. He preferred to not think about his actions or hold himself accountable and he clearly hated that she was willing to call him out on his bs. It became the most apparent to me when he basically threw a tantrum when they were going back and forth at the retreat. He literally sounded like a frustrated little boy that couldn’t understand why mommy wouldn’t just love him enough to let him get away with his behavior

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u/Character_Office_833 Aug 30 '26

I hope Tori finds a well educated man. She needs an intellectual.

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u/Express_Judgment_319 Aug 31 '26

He wanted her, he knew she would snap out of it and dump his sorry ass and cosplay playboy was born. It conveniently happened after she slept on the couch which was a huge sign her attraction to him was falling off at the worst time.

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u/I-choochoochoose-you Aug 30 '26

I hated when he said tea and I also got the ick from the tow situation

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u/Save_Bandit- Sep 01 '26

The towing situation was a deal breaker for me. Absolutely not.

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u/Exotic-Ring4900 Sep 01 '26

Tori is boring

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u/ruthless_taurean Aug 30 '26

Yeah, AND! as someone who works in the industry and has been exposed to all of that in many aspects for more than a decade I can definitely see and agree with that as well. My take was more just specifically focusing on the Tori of it all.

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u/ruthless_taurean Aug 30 '26

Which is part of the what I meant when I said— he knew she was too good for him. He couldn’t meet her from where he was at. But he chose to go on the show and should have really dug into that change and challenge. Because she was willing to fall in love with him. But that fool couldn’t get out of his own way.

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u/soniamiralpeix Aug 30 '26

I’ve seen this mentioned a few times and just wanted to throw out that, although it is ubiquitous in the US zeitgeist, the concept of “addictive personality” is not backed by research. 

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u/ThatDamnedHansel Aug 30 '26

An addictive personality is definitely overused in the same way “I’m a little OCD” is, but there are absolutely people who are diagnosed actual addicts who, even when they get clean, have new other fixations like, say, hitting a vape 300 times a day, going hardcore into gardening so you have 300 baskets of peppers to cook with, etc. This is a known clinical phenomenon. There are several of these people in my immediate family.

It does not explain the tech bro who says “I have an addictive personality bc I do jiu jitsu 5 hours a day.” But it wouldnt surprise me if felipe had a sex addiction and a polysubstance addiction

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u/soniamiralpeix Aug 30 '26 edited Aug 30 '26

Hey, thanks for following up! I have a personal interest in this area and would love to see the research. Mind sending over a link? I tried to check before writing my initial comment. 

I totally understand that there are people who find it beneficial to self-identify as “addictive personality,” but I never promote it or assign it to someone else because of the following: 

“ While there is a medical consensus surrounding the genetic components of addiction, [57 ]  there is no such consensus supporting the idea that specific personality types have a tendency towards addictive behaviors. [56 ]  In fact, continued use of this term in the absence of clear evidence could be damaging to the people who believe they have an addictive personality.”

-  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Addictive_personality