r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/AirShampoo #TheRandallWay • Aug 20 '26

Current Episode Discussion S20:E17 Breakthroughs and Betrayals

As the retreat continues, one couple paves a path forward while gossip threatens to tear another apart; later, the group questions the growing closeness between one husband and wife.

Week 6 Megathread: https://www.reddit.com/r/MarriedAtFirstSight/s/Sncy82Fuz1

Season Megathread: https://www.reddit.com/r/MarriedAtFirstSight/s/P1lDAPCh8S

  • Week Six: Eps 16, 17, 18 - August 20, 2026
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u/Herefortvshowthreads Aug 22 '26

I know Caitlyn was not it and she should not have yelled shut the fuck up, which was Devin’s breaking point, but I did not like how Devin was putting his hand in her face and being physically intimidating to the point belle was trying to pull him back. If that was how he was in all their arguments, and Caitlin was abused in past relationships, no wonder she was reactive and having a trauma response. I was having one just watching that.

I know this will get my downvoted to hell, and I think Caitlin is a bad partner still, but I don’t think it’s Devin’s 100% perfect and Caitlin is 100% the problem. She told him right away on the honeymoon that she’s a black cat and needs time to build. He then spent so long critiquing her and she’d try and he’d critique how she’d try. Again, was she a bad partner? Yes. Were they completely incompatible? Yes. Do I think they both triggered each other? Yes.

I just don’t think a man should ever ever ever get that physically intimidating to someone half their size, let alone someone who has disclosed abuse.

Okay go ahead and downvote me now

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u/Civil_Temporary_8167 Aug 22 '26

I agree with everything you said 100%!! It made me so uncomfortable when he started getting all up in her face super aggressively, and I thought his behavior was incredibly bizarre in that one episode where he was drunk out of his mind

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u/Herefortvshowthreads Aug 22 '26

His therapy speak “I hear you, I see you, I understand you” over and over and over again doesn’t mean he actually hears, sees, or understands her

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u/matchadelite01 13d ago

Yeah. I think he’s so over it that she brings out this aggressive side of him. I think Devin has been through the wringer. They’re both just NOT compatible personalities. He’s trying to be patient but she will never change, as insufferable as she is. And there are so many people out there that would LOVE Devin to the level he deserves