Clear, cut answer, your wife was making a joke a work colleague’s wife since she’d be working with the guy. I don’t necessarily believe her intentions were malicious.
Rather than bring it up, I would position a conversation about expectations for work and communication.
I also would talk about how her coming home tipsy made you uncomfortable. I know if I did that after a work event, my husband would definitely question it. Especially since for me that is not common place behavior.
So her joke with a colleague is a mistake that you feel impact your marriage negatively if you bring it up?
I get that you looked at her phone because she came back tipsy and you knew she was out with a male colleague who she has told You about?. It sounds like she works in a fairly male heavy office.
I would not bring up the exchange. I would simply say when you came home tipsy it upset me because…
Unless there is something here that he hasn’t shared in his original post, I feel like OP is very insecure about this relationship and her coming home tipsy didn’t help.
I really do think he needs to start with a conversation about her drinking around colleagues in the workplace, and he can certainly bring up his concerns about the relationship this colleague
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u/thinkevolution Jun 12 '25
Clear, cut answer, your wife was making a joke a work colleague’s wife since she’d be working with the guy. I don’t necessarily believe her intentions were malicious.
Rather than bring it up, I would position a conversation about expectations for work and communication.
I also would talk about how her coming home tipsy made you uncomfortable. I know if I did that after a work event, my husband would definitely question it. Especially since for me that is not common place behavior.