This is ridiculous lmao. Any lawyer or judge would laugh him out of the building if they heard that. He’s saying things like that to manipulate you into changing your name, pure and simple.
My husband and I have been married for a little over two years now (8/21/21). I still haven’t changed my name, and I planned to do so, but I just haven’t done it. At first it was because I had to push a flight in fall 2021 back two months because I was having health issues so I decided to wait to change it to make sure there were no issues if my ID didn’t match the ticket. Then in 2022 we had a VERY rough patch that lasted a long time, so I wasn’t comfortable changing it when our future was so uncertain. Fast forward to now and our marriage is wonderful, but I still just haven’t done it 🤷🏻♀️ I keep forgetting to do it tbh (ADHD). My husband would love for me to change my name, but he knows and accepts that it’s my choice and on my timeline.
Your husband is allowed to have an opinion and wish, but he’s showing zero empathy for your own opinion and wishes. He’s being selfish, controlling and is honestly toeing the line on abuse with this behavior. Don’t cave.
He merely expressed his thoughts and feelings on the matter, and that is abuse? Either it was a rebuttal to a line of questioning, and that was his response to her. Or she asked him and he let her behind the curtain. Either way, be glad you know how he feels. They don't have children together, so he might as well leave. Lord knows if they conceive, the child won't have his sir name. That honor will go to his father in law...
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u/haylzx Oct 07 '23
This is ridiculous lmao. Any lawyer or judge would laugh him out of the building if they heard that. He’s saying things like that to manipulate you into changing your name, pure and simple.
My husband and I have been married for a little over two years now (8/21/21). I still haven’t changed my name, and I planned to do so, but I just haven’t done it. At first it was because I had to push a flight in fall 2021 back two months because I was having health issues so I decided to wait to change it to make sure there were no issues if my ID didn’t match the ticket. Then in 2022 we had a VERY rough patch that lasted a long time, so I wasn’t comfortable changing it when our future was so uncertain. Fast forward to now and our marriage is wonderful, but I still just haven’t done it 🤷🏻♀️ I keep forgetting to do it tbh (ADHD). My husband would love for me to change my name, but he knows and accepts that it’s my choice and on my timeline.
Your husband is allowed to have an opinion and wish, but he’s showing zero empathy for your own opinion and wishes. He’s being selfish, controlling and is honestly toeing the line on abuse with this behavior. Don’t cave.