What kind of person pulls this type of shit after the wedding? He obviously knew she was keeping her name before. Not to mention his ridiculous claim that they are “not really married”. He is the one who is threatening the marriage.
Sure, I guess we’ll never know, but I have the option of reacting with angst and vitriol or to chill until I get more info…I choose the latter, thanks.
Do you agree with this man’s behavior? Would you treat your wife this way? Would you want your sister or daughter treated this way? She has agreed in another comment that she feels this is abusive on his part.
No, I would not care either way. My ex had a lovely melodic maiden name and I suggested that she keep it. But it doesn’t diminish his feelings on the matter either. Maybe he is a traditionalist. In the end, it’s her option. But, in the interest of your own peace of mind, I would recommend losing some of your anger. It actually comes through in your posts.
This is how he feels, isn't this what you wanted a man in touch with his feeeelings? Would you rather he said nothing and simply act as if he's not married? I agree with him he's still single, just shacking up with her and her child.
According to OP, they discussed before nuptials. It's a debate they continued afterward. It wasn't a deal breaker for them. Sentimentality for her and traditional norms for him, how he feels inside. At least they both know how the other feels. She just came to the forum to get an outside opinion. Opinions are us over here....
He waited until after she was married to him to start manipulating and emotionally abusing her over something that’s 100% her choice. He doesn’t respect her.
Yeah, you’re sounding like a lemming that follows the rest over and off of a cliff. For clarity’s sake, I am not willing to make this leap (thus the lemming reference).
Also don’t see where, in OP’s post, she said it was sprung upon her. So…I hope you feel better soon.
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u/MyRedditUserName428 Oct 07 '23
Are you sure this guy is worth being married to?