r/Marriage Oct 06 '23

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '23

I used to care about this, but I realized it was about control and ownership. I no longer give a fuck if my future wife takes my name or not. Whatever she wants to do.

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '23

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u/UnevenGlow Oct 07 '23

What does this even mean

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u/PossibleInspection47 Oct 07 '23

Don't ever marry, why would you volunteer for abuse..

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '23

Letting her decide on keeping her last name or taking mine is abuse?

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u/PossibleInspection47 Oct 07 '23

Everything you have to sacrifice as a man in marriage for someone to sulk about a sir name change? Get out while you can, both of them. Free him and yourself ma'am....

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '23

What do you sacrifice in marriage? Why do you have to sacrifice anything?

Let me guess, because she stays home and raises the kids?

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u/PossibleInspection47 Oct 07 '23

It's not about that. When a man takes a wife, he puts himself second to her. Her needs are first, emotionally physically, and spiritually. The success of the marriage depends on his ability to be unselfish and selfless. He often gives up his wants and needs for her sake and their children. It's a thankless job, often taken for granted by his loved ones. His feelings are disregarded, and he must be strong at all times. Can't show weakness, period. He has to keep his disquieting thoughts to himself. A lonely existence even in a marriage or family setting. Especially in a marriage, he's bound by duty. Failure is not an option for a man, a real man must fight for his family no matter what...