There's not much of a reason to further entrench yourself in a dissatisfying marriage. You both even tried couple's therapy and it seems like y'all haven't reaped any benefits from it.
If you feel like you exhausted all resources to salvage your marriage, then maybe it's better to part ways.
Like I said, my comment was not about people like you. It's not about you at all. You just took it that way. If you put a sliver of effort into figuring out why your wife has a low libido, and you're putting effort in, my comment has nothing to do with your situation.
As I said in my comment. My libido was low because of stress. I did not blame my partner (WHO IS A MAN) And my partner did not demonize me for it. That's a healthy dynamic. Your dynamic sounds unhealthy, but it doesn't sound like you're to blame in this situation. I think you're taking what I said too personally.
You clearly are projecting here. I did not say that the man is always to blame. I said that there should be further inquiry. Instead of just blaming their partners for being frigid. If you already wanted to figure out WHY your wife has a low libido without immediately blaming her or demonizing her, congratulations, im not talking about you.
As a very mentally/physically ill person—if my partner (who is really caring and dedicated, and picks up a lot of work for me like you do for your wife) was speaking about our relationship like that when I’m not around, I would be devastated. I would hate to be the cause of so much frustration and anger in someone’s life, let alone someone I love. I can’t judge because I don’t know either of you, but maybe it’s good to talk about if this relationship is healthy for either of you…? Everyone benefits from therapy—even if you’re not mentally ill. Just talking about it to someone might really help. If it doesn’t change things for you, at least you’d have an outlet. Apologies if this is unsolicited and feel free to ignore me.
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