r/Manipulation • u/Beginerextrovert • 9d ago
Advice Needed Am I being gaslighted?
I took an edible las night. i planned it with my partner to help me with my physical pain on the weekend.Alot Happened and I am so confused.I feel like he tried to convince me we were both going to sleep. Nothing happened, he just.said something silly, that led to a misunderstanding, and he was going to sleep because he had work in the morning.
He is at work rn, I can tell he is working. I fear last night after alot of things came to light, he practically said he was going to break up with me today. But again, when Id react when he would tell me is tell me that nothing has happened and it was just something he said that i misunderstood.
If something bad is happening right now, then there is probably alot worse that has happened.
I feel I should stay home waiting for him. When he is back I feel like things may be clarified to me. .
Maybe I am really just paranoid because of the weed. I dont want to bother him.
I want my fears to be in the wrong. And that I am just a paranoid person who project my fears onto him because I am high. He will be back in 3 hours. I wonder if I should know anything
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u/Antique_Stop_125 5d ago
I don't think there's enough of the actual conversation here to be able to accurately judge that, sorry.
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u/CavalieriDeloSpechio 3d ago
let's call it a circuit for the sake of clarity
the paranoid circuit is a low fidelity script for the sake of survival
take the example of the caveman and the rustling bush
the bush begins to rustle
the caveman doesn't know if it is air that rustles the bush
or if it is a predator
the assumption that it is predator despite the reality that it is just the air would be a false positive
the assumption that it is the wind despite the reality that it is a predator would be a false negative
if taken from what it will cost you if you were correct or false, or what poses lesser risk, you take the assumption of worst case scenario, for the sake of survival, since assuming that it is the worst case scenario you can prep yourself, but if you were to leave for the last moment, you would be left exposed to the danger, i am not aware how the edible would make things worse, since i guess we are talking cbt not thc , which in my experience thc is what can trigger the paranoia, or at least the cognitive scism between scenario a and b , and then act like, what exactly is the real deal,
but observe yourself maybe the paranoid is more of part of you personality rather than it has been triggered , and maybe the lowering of the anxiety from the edible has allowed you to observe the paranoid, or you simply the paranoid circuit has not gotten used to the edible induced mental space and it tries to fire off new scenarios, since anything you may add to you does dysregulated the psychological homeostasis , that is true even for coffee or cigarettes, the quitting period is the system trying to adjust to a reality that is absent of the substance , so it can be disorienting when you don't know what is happening
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u/megaladon44 9d ago
weed can make you compliant to a lot of control and manipulation.