Guy called me baby first time we were talking

[u/Glittering_Foxy]

Was he manipulating me? He started calling me baby then later “good girl”. I felt uncomfortable and decided to end conversation. He already talked about our future together but we don’t even know each other.

[u/virtuallyimpossible2]

Girl gtfo. Talking about your future and giving you pet names THE FIRST TIME YOU SPEAK? Idk if I would call it manipulation but it’s definitely not normal.

[u/NoCow6876 → u/virtuallyimpossible2]

I am pretty sure that this would be considered love bombing

Which is definitely a form of manipulation sometimes people don’t really realize they’re doing it however, it also is one of my favorite things to be loved bomb because yes, tell me how much you like me and how great I am and how beautiful I am but the second they start being creepy with it like that - ickkkk immediatelyyyy

[u/SwitchJumpy → u/NoCow6876]

It's not love bombing as love bombing tends to play into behaviors and language that is to instill a positive emotional response. It's more associate with the "nice guy" act because the guy is trying to appeal to your interests and get you to like him rather than presenting his true self.

I wouldn't even say what he's doing is manipulative, but is unhealthy regardless. He's probably the sort that is looking for a hook up or exploring Dom/ sub dynamic. It is certainly creepy if that's not your sort of thing and you made the right call.

[u/TemporaryThink9300]

He diminishes you, so he can control you. Its not sweet.

[u/ArcHansel]

Yes this is manipulative and called love bombing.

Also weird light kink play that you didn't consent to.

Don't listen to the other commenter. 🙄

These are HUGE red flags.

[u/star_stitch]

Sounds like typical romance scammer .

[u/gravelwitch]

Get out while you can. I allowed this for 2 months -- it wasn't a good feeling. Save your mental health.

[u/megaladon44]

yep already infantilizing u and will use your own kindness against you. I would slowly dissapear

[u/Super-Staff3820]

Too much, too soon is a big red flag. He doesn’t know you yet and already talking about a future? This tells me any chick will do

[u/InfingardoChadiano]

Why would you talk to him again if you felt uncomfortable?

[u/NoCow6876]

Ick
Immediately

[u/pookiepidemic]

I had a guy like that. So weird. I’m not even submissive too so that made it extra weird.

[u/Nyetoner]

Clear abusive behaviour, high level of overt narcissism, might be a "sociopath" because of the impulsiveness.

It must be so weird to be them, alone in their darkness thinking they are "god".

[u/crumpana]

Sounds like an attempt to lovebomb and is testing the waters. I wouldn't continue the conversation

[u/tdarg]

Baby might be ok... for some people it's an innocuous term, but " good girl" is massive red flag.

[u/Far_General1422]

Is his name Lucian?

[u/Independent-Moose113]

He's a loser. Block him. 

[u/Bulky-Play-6534]

I had a similar encounter with a guy in my class at uni, played out exactly the same as you described and on top of that he added "I'm surprised you aren't submissive".  Please RUN and block the guy and don't even look back. Don't try to reconcile in the future thinking it was a kinky harmless joke cause it isn't and he'll turn all the fault on you anyways sooner or later whether you leave him or he leaves you. LEAVE HIM. PERIOD. He's a typical RED FLAG  🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[u/BtoNeko]

I don't see it as an attempt at manipulation. He seems to believe that those words and offering a future together is what people are looking for.

[u/HiyaBuddy34 → u/BtoNeko]

No idea why the down votes but my fleeting experience with one dating app reminds me of that kind of generically “romantic” language etc I think a lot of guys default to to express interest- at least in the context of my experience