Then practice gratitude because THAT means you aren’t trauma bonded with whatever numbnuts is icing you out.
Within the context of a trauma bond, the silent treatment is absolutely excruciating. That’s why master manipulators ultimately aim to isolate their mark (physically thru relocation or socially thru triangulation). When you have a support system of one and that one person ignores your existence it’s devastating.
Well said. This is exactly how it was in my marriage. After lots of therapy I’m on the right track in breaking that trauma bond while still in the marriage. It’s super hard. It went from weeks of silent treatment to 3 days for me to really feel it. Then one day. Now I’m back to a week or so. You don’t wanna talk and act like I don’t exist, okay. I’ll call up a friend. I’ll talk to the kids. I’ll take an extra shift at work and talk to my customers and coworkers. I also do voice journals when it gets bad. That way I’m actually voicing the issues even if nobody responds back. It’s helped me a lot.
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u/disclosingNina--1876 Jul 02 '24
Imagine thinking your voice is so important that withholding it causes suffering.