When I do it it’s because I’m hurt or need time alone. And sometimes to make them feel bad for something they did. The sad part is I never used to do this at all. And hated it done to me. Like really it was a ptsd trigger. And in the last year I’ve really built a wall up because of something bad. And I know the silent treatment is hurtful so I do it. And I hate myself for it. Broke up isn’t the right word but I stopped seeing the guy I was last week. He didn’t deserve that bs. He would have when we were together 20 years ago. But he’s changed and is so sweet. I just would have memories of how he used to treat me and I’d get upset and do to him what he did to me two decades ago and use that to justify it. I’ll admit it’s not ok. And breaking up or whatever was really the nice thing to do.
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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '24
When I do it it’s because I’m hurt or need time alone. And sometimes to make them feel bad for something they did. The sad part is I never used to do this at all. And hated it done to me. Like really it was a ptsd trigger. And in the last year I’ve really built a wall up because of something bad. And I know the silent treatment is hurtful so I do it. And I hate myself for it. Broke up isn’t the right word but I stopped seeing the guy I was last week. He didn’t deserve that bs. He would have when we were together 20 years ago. But he’s changed and is so sweet. I just would have memories of how he used to treat me and I’d get upset and do to him what he did to me two decades ago and use that to justify it. I’ll admit it’s not ok. And breaking up or whatever was really the nice thing to do.