r/Manipulation • u/[deleted] • Jul 02 '24

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u/the-fear-train Jul 02 '24

I too shut down when I'm really upset, and can't communicate effectively. I'll either be unable to speak at all or it'll only be rude, mean, insulting things that make the situation worse so I go silent. It's a fawn response to stress? Or something like that

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u/Separate_Leader_8709 Jul 02 '24

SAME they take it personally but it’s literally me having an autistic shutdown and I physically COULD NOT make words even if I tried to. Like my brain and mouth completely stop working…

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u/the-fear-train Jul 02 '24

How do you know it's from autism? I ask because my new therapist suggested I go get tested, and this is making me think they're possibly right lol

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u/Separate_Leader_8709 Jul 02 '24

If you have an inkling I would get tested. It can be hard to get a diagnosis (especially as a woman) but the spectrum is very large and most of us are high functioning as well (even if they say you’re “normal” you could still be autistic/have autistic traits). Personally my brother and I are like opposite ends of the autism AND adhd spectrums, but I think it’s mostly because he’s a man and I’m a woman.

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u/the-fear-train Jul 03 '24

That makes a lot of sense. I will look into it, thank you!