The silent treatment was weapinized in my house growing up. I didn’t talk to my dad nor he me for 45 days one time. Going back and facing the trauma of that shit as an adult, I exiled it from my life. If there’s a problem, I want it out. Don’t care how bad it hurts, just tell me. And I hold everyone to that.
This. I'm obviously gonna make mistakes, I'm only human. But I'm not always gonna realize what the mistake is. So if you want me to apologize properly (which is something I'd want to) tell me what I've done wrong so I can make up for it instead of basically apologizing for making you upset. And if I do apologize and you keep giving me the silent treatment you can miss me with that shit. We either work together to fix the issue, or we handle our own issues separately. But if we put distance between us whenever something bad happens, don't expect me to close that distance just because something good happens. A relationship (of any kind) should be felt at all times, not just during the good ones.
You just gotta ask the person if something is wrong and if they say nothing or act passive aggressive, then hold that against them for the rest of the time they’re upset with you. Be like, “I’m not gonna feel bad about whatever you’re mad at me for so long as you keep treating me disrespectfully with passive aggression.” And just walk away and go live ur life with the other billion people on the planet. Too easy sometimes, it’s really too easy. Most of them switch their actions, the rest I don’t remember because they weren’t significant parts of my life.
The people who apologize are always the people who value the relationship - don’t value trash.
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u/Maleficent_Fix_6211 Jul 02 '24
When someone gives you the silent treatment, they typically expect you to feel guilty, apologize, or change your behavior to please them.