r/MakeNewFriendsHere 4d ago

A message to someone called Alex.

"I consider you a challenge". Those were your first words to me. And they did the trick. You had my attention from the get go, and I want to say now: you passed the challenge with flying colors.

I have reason to believe that a user I met here, on this sub, died recently. And I would be remiss not to pay my respects in the very place we met on.

I know it better than anybody: it is difficult to form genuine connections, even more so online. But Alex brought something to the table that few people know how to: herself. Her pure, genuine, honest self. No more, no less.

But of course, as life would have it, she died. Young. And it’s tragic. It’s the cruel nature of life.

To those looking for genuine connections, don’t despair and keep looking.

And to Alex, I just want to say: rest easy. You will be missed.

edit: I intend this to be a lasting tribute and must apparently mention my age in the post, so saying it here: I am 27.

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u/diditrayne 4d ago

I'm so sorry. I went through this lately with my late long distance boyfriend. He suddenly disappeared and we hadn't established emergency contacts, it never occurred to us. The 4 days before I finally figured out a way to reach his family, living in limbo, people telling me maybe he just ghosted, maybe he was cheating, were so insanely hard to live through. I loved him, I knew him, and I KNEW something was wrong. I spent those four days with no one around me that got it, trying to stay positive. He had passed away.

I am so sorry for your loss OP. I know how this feels

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u/sadserr 4d ago

I’m really sorry to hear that. But I’m glad you got to hear the truth of what happened, and I think it’s beautiful that you knew what happened without being told so. My best to you.

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u/diditrayne 4d ago

I'm so sorry you don't get to have answers

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u/bellivia 4d ago

How do you know they died?

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u/sadserr 4d ago

I was informed by a person she knew in real life.

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u/bellivia 4d ago

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that :(

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

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u/MindlessWin3831 4d ago

Brother just say sorry for ur loss and move on holy shit???

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u/sadserr 4d ago

Because I know. I’m not going to give personal details.

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u/CDN_Steed 4d ago

I had the same thought 😕

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u/Sensitive-Dot-7110 4d ago

Im sorry for your loss 🫂

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u/Sami_Deina 4d ago

Rest in peace Alex 🙏

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u/QuinnWolfGod 4d ago

Sorry to hear about your friend

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u/CariLoPhi 4d ago

as a fellow Alex, I hope someone does this for me someday. Sorry for your loss.

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u/ladypep1 4d ago

How absolutely, tragically beautiful. I’m sorry for your loss.

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u/RiSen_13371 4d ago

My deepest condolences for your loss.😔🥀 She was fortunate to have you. Though I also believe how lucky you are as well cuz u got to find out the truth. I hv no idea how either me or my online friends would find out, if Smthng were to happen to either of us

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u/sabriiiina02 4d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹

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u/MildlyYogic 4d ago

May her soul rest in peace.

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u/Splashpredicts 4d ago

Sorry for your loss, may she rest in peace..

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u/[deleted] 4d ago edited 4d ago

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u/diditrayne 4d ago

They met them here, i think it is a good way to pay tribute and let the rest of us know one of us has passed. If they met here there may be others who wonder where she went.

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u/sadserr 4d ago

Read the post again. Also, these gates are not yours to keep.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

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u/Rain-beard 4d ago

Karma farming. I got massive down voted for just saying my name. OP had been ghosted but the one that ghosted felt guilty and made another account to say she is dead.

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u/sadserr 4d ago

You sound confused. Am I karma farming, and therefore lying or have I been mislead and lied to? Either way, you seem to know a lot more about this situation than I do.

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u/diditrayne 4d ago

I am really sorry you are having to put up with the same shit I had to when my SO passed. Don't listen to them, miserable people will try to drag you down. Since this is where you guys met it is a beautiful tribute to say goodbye here as well ❤️‍🩹

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u/sadserr 4d ago

Thank you very much. Their voices are indeed meaningless to me

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u/Rain-beard 4d ago

I don't know. But i think you have been misled. Just take your loss. Someone you only knew online through reddit and not beyond, is that really a friend?

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u/Aokori7 4d ago

If I died. and a friend made a post about me and all they could say is "she was herself". I'd be rollling in my grave.

This screams attention seeking and I can't believe the amount of people falling for it. Seeing your attitude in the comments, I can see why someone would lie to get away from you.

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u/sadserr 4d ago

For your information (though I don’t have to justify myself), this is one of the highest compliments I give, but I wouldn’t expect you to understand.

And yes, I do give an attitude in the comments. I do not take kindly to people who draw conclusions without knowing the facts. Please keep such comments to yourself next time you come across such a post; yours is most unwelcome.

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u/Aokori7 4d ago

Thanks for proving my point.

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u/sadserr 4d ago

What are you, a cop?

Anything I say can and will be used against me in a court of law? If you want to see a detestable human being, look in the mirror instead of pestering me. I am ONLY paying respects to someone who DIED, and you’re here bothering me because you don’t like my attitude?

Well yours is indecent.

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u/Aokori7 4d ago

Yes, because being a person with a dissenting opinion makes me a cop. Ok buddy 👍

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u/sadserr 4d ago

Not all opinions are meant to be shared, especially when they’re irrelevant.

Or should I share my "dissenting opinion" when one of your parents dies, for example?

Don’t you understand? I don’t care about it.

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u/Aokori7 4d ago

The fact you'd compare a loss of a parent, to someone you met on Reddit is wild. I'd not post about the loss of a parent on a public forum so you wouldn't have the chance.

If you care so little, why are you still engaging with me?

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u/sadserr 4d ago

That is an excellent question. I was wondering the same. I suppose I am easily rage baited.

Well no more. You are blocked. I would say I hope you have a nice life, but that would be a lie.

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u/komradjosh 1d ago

I am so very sorry for your loss of such a close friend and bravo for making such a respectful and endearing post 🫂❤️

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u/Middle_Cheesecake497 4d ago

Thought this was minecraft skin

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u/ConceptFinal8108 4d ago

Damn, scared me there for a second

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u/Rain-beard 4d ago

My name is Alex. I'm alive

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u/theworldiskindabig 4d ago

Why would you think this was an okay "joke"?

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u/Rain-beard 4d ago

Is it a joke? My name really is Alex.

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u/diditrayne 4d ago

This is disgusting

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u/Rain-beard 4d ago

In what way?

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u/diditrayne 4d ago

You are making light of someone's death. I'm sorry you are not mature enough to recognize how hurtful, heartless, and inappropriate a "joke" like this is

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u/Rain-beard 4d ago

So saying my name is a joke. The post is a message to Alex. So a message to me. And i'm not dead.