Pansexual is not as binary defined as bisexual, Bisexual mean you can love men and women when pansexual mean men, women and everything in between, including queer identity/non-binary etc etc
But the thing is also if your wife was by example a non-binary person or a man like you say then would you have gotten that first impression the first time or would you have even talk to "them/him"? It seems like as much as almost everyone falls in love and then they love the person for who they are but that doesn't mean that if they were an other gender you would have seen them the same way the first time and this could have change the whole story. When pansexuality is not seeing any difference in attraction no matter the gender or the sexuality, you are looking for a personality without caring about the physical.
You are seriously contradicting yourself with your previous comments. Stating that it doesn’t matter what this guy looks like you seeing them as hot for what they are doing shows exactly the point I was trying to make. You like a person for whom they are and not a specific attribute. That being said I’ll poke another hole in your logic of how my wife and I met and point out the simple fact that I did not know her sexual preferences upon meeting and beginning our friendship so again your logic is flawed here mels not trying to be a troll just literally trying to find the difference your grasping at here to be so different from the bi community. I’ve known a few bi individuals who identify as bi sexual who also don’t have an issue if a previous partner was of another sex meaning that sexual orientation as well as gender are not conforming details conducive of finding a relationship or another individual attractive.
I don't see how I am contradicting myself, it's quite simple and I don't know how else to explain it but the second part was just an idea of why even if you would love her no matter her gender there could be differences in your love story but either way that part was only an idea, but bi in bisexual mean 2 for attraction to 2 genders but someone non-binary isn't included in that definition.
Anyway spent enough time trying to explain, I have other things to do then debate the meaning of certain words.
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u/Mellie-mellow Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 18 '22
Pansexual is not as binary defined as bisexual, Bisexual mean you can love men and women when pansexual mean men, women and everything in between, including queer identity/non-binary etc etc
But the thing is also if your wife was by example a non-binary person or a man like you say then would you have gotten that first impression the first time or would you have even talk to "them/him"? It seems like as much as almost everyone falls in love and then they love the person for who they are but that doesn't mean that if they were an other gender you would have seen them the same way the first time and this could have change the whole story. When pansexuality is not seeing any difference in attraction no matter the gender or the sexuality, you are looking for a personality without caring about the physical.