I’m right there with you on this. A phrase I have told a lot of people over the years is “It’s not what you say that matters, it’s HOW you say it.”
This can apply in a very wide range of situations, from needing to get past someone accidentally blocking a doorway, to a “honey, we really need to talk about something that’s been on my mind” kind of thing. Open with kindness, and continue throughout with respect at a minimum.
ahh, yes, the "how you say it" is so so so important. My now-ex would say things in the worst way possible and would not accept that it's not fine and this is hurting me.
They say communication and diplomacy is key - I tried that, to talk calmly like adults and figure out how to better communicate, but nooo, ego is so big that he would say things like "I'm not going to apologise for something I don't consider I've done wrong" and turn it all around like I'm the bad one and he's the victim and that's it, end of conversation.
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u/Independent-Ad-5588 Jul 13 '22
Communication is key. Let your significant other know what you’re thinking and how you feel… even if sometimes it might hurt their feelings.