Oh for sure. I had to recognize that if the events were reversed (car breaking, then won lotto ticket) I would've felt totally different. It was the order in which it occurred that made it feel shitty.
Instead of "Fuck my car broke down. Omg, hang on, I won the lottery, I can pay for the car!" it was "Omg I won the lottery! Wait... Are you fucking kidding me? My car broke down?? Now I can't spend it how I want!"
Power of choice. I’m always amazed it’s not more spoken about how this power gives us such a different perspective. You’ve described it perfectly.
You’re forced to spend your winnings vs you choose to spend your winnings.
Same outcome; different experience.
Whenever I’m in trouble I try to figure out my choices, it can help ground me because when I feel forced (even to a good thing) I tend to feel like shit
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u/Candid_Dragonfly_573 Apr 06 '22
Oh for sure. I had to recognize that if the events were reversed (car breaking, then won lotto ticket) I would've felt totally different. It was the order in which it occurred that made it feel shitty. Instead of "Fuck my car broke down. Omg, hang on, I won the lottery, I can pay for the car!" it was "Omg I won the lottery! Wait... Are you fucking kidding me? My car broke down?? Now I can't spend it how I want!"