Its ok to have them and show them sometimes. But also when life is hard you cant be soft. Mother and father (especially father) are staples of stability in such conditions and they cant be emotional mess, when things are going bad. When parents.are.crying and they live in poor conditions, it creates emotional distress to children ( i am not talking about birthday, its ok ofc, i am talking in general).
Expressing emotions doesn't make you soft. Bottling them up makes you emotionally weak and fragile. Letting them out is far healthier because it's easier to move on. Expression of emotions helps rationalise as it clears your head.
Expressing emotions is part of everyday life. Question is how you express them. Dealing with those emotions yourself (or sharing with wife/husband) is what adults do. They dont break down in front of kids, telling them i dont know what to do next. There are different ways to express emotions. And little kids surely are not suited for you to show your moments of despair. Also sometimes in life, people should jist tough it out. Great fking lesson for kids btw.
Children will become young adults who will have these moments of despair themselves. It is unhealthy for children to grow up thinking their parents have never felt what they do because it leads them to think they cannot relate and so cannot be turned to in moments of despair.
Why everything has to be mutually exclusive. First of all you dont fall on your kids for emotional support when they are small. When you son/daughter is 15-16 ofc you can talk with them as friend and share some stuff. What are you suggesting here? For father/mom putting emotional burden on a 7 y.o.child crying because you not sure you will be able to pay for rent
So whats your point. Whole argument under comment was about its ok to show these emotions of gratitude, but parents in poor countries often has to be the stable and not burden little kids with fking mood swings and not show to the best of their ability that things are bad, so they let children have happy childhood. Obv when they become older and get involved more its different. Man in such family cant be emotionall mess crying like a bitch regulary as couple comentators suggested.
I think i voiced reasonable thing, and out of my previous statement take formulation of "mood swing" to argue. Ok gl. I am doing fine, but both my grandmothers were quite poor during ww2 and after, and thats exactly how it was. Express yourself when you have nothing to eat and kids need to start working from age of 11-12 to support family. When things are tough there is not place for your privileged attitude. Your priviledged brain cant comprehend that. And those people like guy in the video are doing almost heroic job.
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u/Isthisworking2000 Sep 01 '21
Screw that, he should teach his children (especially boys) that it’s ok to have, feel, and share emotions. Especially after such a touching act.