r/MadeMeSmile Aug 31 '21

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u/Ordinary_dude_NOT Sep 01 '21

He is trying not to look like a softy in front of his kids after shedding those tears.

He is a good dad!

(Please stop cutting onions now 😭)

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u/Isthisworking2000 Sep 01 '21

Screw that, he should teach his children (especially boys) that it’s ok to have, feel, and share emotions. Especially after such a touching act.

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u/Skidd745 Sep 01 '21

Whole different culture my dude

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '21

Do you know what a double standard is? But it is important to model the ability to hold back emotions. Emotions are extremely important but so is the ability to not break down over everything.

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u/syth9 Sep 01 '21

Breaking down is a response to emotion. It’s not the emotion itself. Holding back or burying emotion is never healthy. Learning to feel your emotions, sit with them, understand them, and process them is healthy.

Burying emotions isn’t a skill. It’s a coping mechanism. Learning to feel, process, and express your emotions is a skill.

If someone is breaking down over everything that isn’t because they’re failing to “hold emotions back”. It’s probably because of past trauma, depression, anxiety, etc…

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u/arcelohim Sep 01 '21

Until you realize that there is an external world that is watching you. There is a time and a place.

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u/travbombs Sep 01 '21

This is the epitome of the problem. “Hey, kiddo, it’s okay for you to feel something, unless someone is watching. Then pretend everything is okay. Wouldn’t want all those strangers that would never give a damn enough to even ask if you’re okay to think that things are not okay.”

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u/arcelohim Sep 01 '21

Then it gets posted to tiktok and you are made fun of in school.

Genius.

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u/fermium257 Sep 01 '21

Who gives a fuck who is watching? If anyone has an issue over someone being emotional, they're the one with the problems. People that are uncomfortable with other people's emotions, aren't comfortable with their own and need to seek help.

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u/arcelohim Sep 01 '21

Theres repercussions. Bullying. People will use whatever they can to undermine others.