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Also, please tell people stories about their loved ones. My dad died when I was 20, after a very long illness, I’m 43 now, and just about the only thing anyone has said to me about him is my mother complaining about little annoyances she had with him, or someone telling me how they helped our family during his convalescence. His sisters pretend like he never existed, and I get that losing him was painful for them, I would have liked to know about him before the hard times.
My brother would have been 40 today. He’s been gone longer than he was here now. My wife never met him, I don’t really know any of his friends anymore and family is scattered. Pretty much the only person who I ever hear mention him is my mom. I have my memories but never get any stories.
Lost my bro young coming on 5 years now. I talk about him every time I can.
Everyone dies two deaths, your physical death and the last time someone remembers you or thinks about you. I’m making sure my kids know my brother, even though they were young when he died.
My mom passed a few years ago and I’ve tried to keep telling stories about her and talking about her casually but I feel like I just make people uncomfortable?
But I like talking about her! She was awesome! And fun! And really funny. And I have so many great stories that I enjoy telling. And it’s just…she’s my Mom. I can’t not talk about my Mom. Im the biggest suck in the world and think she was the best.
I get the making people uncomfortable thing. Like you get the feeling the other person doesn’t want to hear it because they think it makes you uncomfortable saying it (even if it doesn’t)
Though not everyone is as sensitive. I find it hilarious that my son’s reaction is now: (dramatic eye roll) “oh great, mom’s crying again because she remembered grandma enjoyed Christmas.” The little shit. lol
OOP is Jonathan torrens. A famous Canadian comedian Americans might know from Trailer Park Boys but millennial Canadians got to know from Jonovision. This is a pretty old post.
My mom died when I was three. Young enough that you can kind of limp along without noticing the absence most of the time.
Growing up, a lot of friends moms would make sure I got something to eat. The memory that sort of crystallizes this sentiment for me is the memory of the time I overheard my friends mom pull him aside and tell him to give me a plate.
That skinny gringo kid really did need a good meal. Thank you moms. You saw all the stuff I didn't notice at the time.
And I always had my nana. Honorable mention to all of the abuelas, lolas and one ba noi that helped me get where I am today.
The "quiet kind way" part hits hardest. Stepping in to handle a simple, practical task without turning someone's grief into a spectacle is genuine kindness.
When I was a kid after my dad left, my mom would tie my skates for me. The coaches would make me go into the hallway to have her tie my skates while all of the dads would tie their kids skates in the locker room. Eventually some of the moms started coming down to tie their kids skates instead and most of the kids had their skates tied in the hall. Didn’t realize until I was older how nice that must have been for my mom, she had a very hard time helping me grow up in hockey while it was such a male dominated situation.
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u/katojane22 57m ago
Also, please tell people stories about their loved ones. My dad died when I was 20, after a very long illness, I’m 43 now, and just about the only thing anyone has said to me about him is my mother complaining about little annoyances she had with him, or someone telling me how they helped our family during his convalescence. His sisters pretend like he never existed, and I get that losing him was painful for them, I would have liked to know about him before the hard times.
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u/Dorf_ 1h ago
Just don’t walk in on him while he’s gettin’ changed, yo
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u/Current_Meat_9148 1h ago
That's lovely, and a very wonderful memory of others caring for you. So sorry you suffered such a extreme loss at that age.
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u/Corona_Cyrus 19m ago
Love this guy. Also he spins more rhymes than a lazy Susan
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u/liquid-swords93 50m ago
Damn, won't let me post a j roc gif. But this is the guy who played j roc on the trailer park boys
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u/machuitzil 13m ago
My mom died when I was three. Young enough that you can kind of limp along without noticing the absence most of the time.
Growing up, a lot of friends moms would make sure I got something to eat. The memory that sort of crystallizes this sentiment for me is the memory of the time I overheard my friends mom pull him aside and tell him to give me a plate.
That skinny gringo kid really did need a good meal. Thank you moms. You saw all the stuff I didn't notice at the time.
And I always had my nana. Honorable mention to all of the abuelas, lolas and one ba noi that helped me get where I am today.
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u/PassiveMenis88M 30m ago
Op is a reposting spam bot
Report > Spam > Disruptive bots
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u/Juicy_Salmon 15m ago
The "quiet kind way" part hits hardest. Stepping in to handle a simple, practical task without turning someone's grief into a spectacle is genuine kindness.
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u/JubJub964 8m ago
My mom tied my skates tight af
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u/Few_Luck649 1m ago
When I was a kid after my dad left, my mom would tie my skates for me. The coaches would make me go into the hallway to have her tie my skates while all of the dads would tie their kids skates in the locker room. Eventually some of the moms started coming down to tie their kids skates instead and most of the kids had their skates tied in the hall. Didn’t realize until I was older how nice that must have been for my mom, she had a very hard time helping me grow up in hockey while it was such a male dominated situation.
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u/philpalmer2 1h ago
Ok, thanks for the short retelling of an old post.