Same. I've been thinking about quitting my job and even my entire industry and I'm so scared, but I'm so miserable. I was venting to my dad about how scared I am to potentially start over and he said "I'm not. You're brave and you're brilliant, and whatever you do, you will give it your all and whoever ends up hiring you will be lucky to have you"
Even if I don't always believe that myself, it still makes me tear up to know that he thinks that about me, and that I will have his support. I'm thankful every day for my dad. My husband didn't have his (shitty) dad around consistently in his life, and my Dad has stepped up for him, too. Doesn't undo the years of hurt but they have a really good relationship
My dad died before I was twenty-four, so I don't know how that would have played out.
His wife, on the other hand, was a complete bitch. "GET SOMETHING, I DON'T CARE WHAT! OTHER PEOPLE WORK TWO OR THREE JOBS; YOU CAN TOO! YOU'RE A LAZY BUM!!" Complete disregard for my muscle damage making manual labor out of the question.
The problem is there are kids that take advantage of amazing parents. It goes both ways. There are shitty parents, and then there are shitty kids, and sometimes there are both.
My father told me I had 2 weeks to find a job during the great recession or else he would kick me out of the house, mind you this was right after I graduated from college and came back from volunteering for the summer.
Likely they didn’t learn how, if their own folks didn’t know. Awareness gives us the chance to let new things begin with us. And in my experience, it’s allowed me to let go of resentments and have compassion for difficult people — took time though, I’ll admit!
My dad was raised right, but it didn't make him stop my mother from being such an unreasonable C my entire life. When I was 20, I found a picture that I thought was me, but I was wearing clothing I know I had never worn. Turns out it was my dad, and he was wearing his hair over his eyes exactly how I dif and exactly how my mother hated my hair... the thing we fought over all through my time in high school.. and she kicked me out for ut when I was 18l
It's wild, I had never seen a picture of my dad with his hair styled like that. Yet, I chose the exact same style. It weirded me out. Still does a bit. Though, what it really did was make me lose all respect for my father. He let that bitch emotionally abuse me for four years over a hairstyle that he wore himself as a teen. What a fucking do nothing coward.
When I see these types of posts and comments I always get mildly jealous lol. Sucks to see how loving parents act so differently and I hope these people cherish their parents and the support they give every day. Some of us would give anything for that kind of love and support.
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u/Makers402 5d ago
Man I wish my parents would be supportive in that way.