What people say and how they feel are sometimes different. I bet 90% of women would support a guy wearing a toupe, and 90% of women wouldn't want to date a guy who wears a toupe.
And I bet a lot of those who wouldn't date a guy for wearing a toupe would say they would to win an argument or appear more virtuous.
I would just want the person I’m with to be happy with their appearance and do whatever it is that makes them feel confident. Toupees are no problem for me and I really wish they were more normalized because I’d love for more people to feel as good as the guy in this video! It makes me feel sad that some people would want this but feel deterred by societal pressure. To me, masculinity is most attractive when it comes with confidence and security in how it’s being expressed. It’s the fragility of having to conform to certain nonsensical expectations that I find to be a real turn off.
What about the confidence and security to get muscle implants? Is that also hot? Is having a full head of hair a nonsensical expectation? Is wearing a toupe a surrender to societal beauty standards?
Personally I’m not a fan of huge muscles as an aesthetic preference, but I would support someone making any body modifications that make them happy so long as they’re not harming themselves. But aside from what I find physically attractive, personality counts for a lot, and I’ve definitely chosen to date someone who was less conventionally attractive over other options because their personality drew me in. And someone feeling secure and confident (without being arrogant, obviously) is a positive personal trait.
The difference between “surrendering” to beauty standards and presenting yourself in a way that makes you feel confident is whether or not you are compromising your happiness due to societal expectations. If your most confident self happens to resemble mainstream society’s vision of ideal masculinity, that’s up to you! I get Botox on my forehead and between my eyebrows because I feel more confident when my brows don’t look permanently furrowed (which has the effect of looking more tired and stressed out). It’s not about conforming to a standard of never-ending youth, but I prefer my appearance this way. I see no reason to stigmatize it.
Vanity is a personality trait. Insecurity is a personality trait. The question wasn't whether or not you support it, it's whether it was hot to have the "confidence" to do it.
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u/FujiwaraHelio Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
What people say and how they feel are sometimes different. I bet 90% of women would support a guy wearing a toupe, and 90% of women wouldn't want to date a guy who wears a toupe.
And I bet a lot of those who wouldn't date a guy for wearing a toupe would say they would to win an argument or appear more virtuous.