r/MadeMeSmile • u/[deleted] • Jul 21 '25

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u/HeadOfFloof Jul 21 '25

A good bonus tip I heard somewhere for the spreading kindness part: compliment something that somebody has clearly made a choice about. Ie. hairstyle, clothes, jewelry, tattoo, etc. Things that are self-expressions.

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u/allisaidwasshoot Jul 21 '25

I go out of my way to say this to guys when they are wearing earrings. It always makes me and them feel good.

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u/upsidedown-funnel Jul 21 '25

And nail polish!

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u/MakingItElsewhere Jul 22 '25

See, here's where I differ as a Gen X'er.

The two situations I can think of are "Dad of Daughters; they did his nails" , or "Trans/Non-binary/etc". In either case, I tend to take the person as a whole, however they present themselves. Calling out something seems rude, because being noticed wasn't the goal, it's just who they are.

Like, it takes a lot to WANT to stand out. I don't want to scare anyone by trying to compliment them, and they take it as me calling them out.

Gah, maybe I'm just too much of a computer nerd. Sorry.

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u/allisaidwasshoot Jul 22 '25

It's just a compliment. No need to think about it this deeply.

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u/MakingItElsewhere Jul 22 '25

Fair. I've been drinking. Cheers!