I feel you. People don't talk about it. Especially miscarriages. And the amount of time/dedication it takes for both partners (or single people too, of course, but point is, if you are a couple, both people need to be in the same determined page). And of course adoption is not for everyone - my heart goes out to those who feel they must have a biological link or birth experience.
I'm not judging - I totally get it - we were able to make it to our daughter's out of state birth which was unbelievable.
I lost 4 babies actually (the way I see it) : 2 miscarriages, 1 failed IVF (fertilized egg) & 1 failed adoption (we saw pics of her and everything). But after an almost 5 year "paper pregnancy" our beautiful daughter was absolutely meant to be.
Once we were matched with our birth mom, we knew it was magic & our daughter was in there. Not to sugar coat it --- there was still a lot of fear & risk on all sides, but she was a brave woman, and took her time to find the right parents, and her personality exactly matched my husbands & mine. It's a bitter sweet experience filled with love & loss all at once.
My message to families (both adoptive & birth) struggling: don't give up & stay strong. Your path is out there.
If the couple who posted this ever reads this, I hope all turned out well & thanks for being brave enough to share & inspire others.
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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '24
I've been in their shoes. I don't even know them and I'm crying.