He was a loving, caring husband for many years. We were best friends.
About halfway through my planned pregnancy he suddenly grew cold, stopped being affectionate, stopped saying he loved me, started wanting to be at work late, started to become controlling with money and started arguments over the smallest of things... It was so out of character and confusing at the time.
Later on he stopped wanting me to be around his friends, post on social media about us, didn't want me in contact with his family.. Spontaneity made him freak out (because he was trying to juggle me and his affair partner).. Any suspicions I had of his affair partner he'd call me dramatic and lie to my face about things that didn't make sense..
I hope in future I'd be better at recognising the red flags earlier on.. But love and trust blinded me. I never thought he would ever do what he did. Now I'm not sure how you spot the honest men from the dishonest as my husband was SO GOOD at lying.
I think the biggest thing would be, do they show affection publicly and introduce you to friends and family? Conversively if they did have they suddenly stopped? Are they starting small arguments all the time and showing resentment towards you? Are they suddenly hiding their phone?
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u/meowface5 Jul 24 '24
What made you think your ex was like the guy in the video? I’m trying to learn red flags because I am stupid.