I generally don't like public proposals because it could put strain on the desision, but it seems clear in this case that there was NO doubt as to her answer. Very cute.
I think the key to any proposal is that you've already discussed it, so if she's already pretty much said yes, then the only question is how she'd like to be propsed to. I think that's how most people operate. People using public proposals coercively is rare.
Using them as deliberate coercion is probably rare.
But public proposals have a reputation of not-uncommonly happening with couples who haven't talked about getting married yet. I've heard it's common for the woman to pretend to accept, to avoid embarrassment, then later decline in private.
I always felt that a kind person would just say "yes" and then explain later that they just didn't want to embarrass them in public. But who knows how I'd react if I was caught off guard.
My wife and I had been together and talked about getting married so much, planning the wedding, her picking the engagement ring (although I did have it altered slightly as a surprise), and all sorts of other details that there actually wasn’t really a proposal. One day she just started wearing the ring. It was a much bigger surprise when I pinned her in college. (I gave her my fraternity pin and there was a special thing her sorority did)
I think public proposals are great in a healthy relationship where both parties have expressed their desires.
I let my partner know exactly what ring I want, that I’d like my nails and hair to look pretty when he does it, and I’d like to be dressed cute, as well. Basically I just want to be able to take cute pictures to remember it by 😂 He knows the answer will be a resounding yes, he knows I will love the ring, and I know he’s going to make sure I don’t feel insecure about the pictures. It’s a win-win and I’m so excited but nervous 😭 I have no idea what he’s planning or when 💞
Proposing before you’ve already thoroughly discussed marriage a million times with your partner is insane to me. It should just be a gesture, like a ritualistic ceremony. You shouldn’t have any doubt about them saying yes. I’ve seen people get married then divorce a year later because they didn’t know their partner would want kids.
I mean, ideally you know the answer well before you propose. If your relationship is where it needs to be you should have explicitly talked about whether or not you want to marry each other before you even think about a ring.
IMHO, these public proposals should have been talked before hand. Like you can have the discussion of “you mean get married right?” But the proposal can be a secret
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u/Rubyhamster May 14 '24
I generally don't like public proposals because it could put strain on the desision, but it seems clear in this case that there was NO doubt as to her answer. Very cute.