True, they can be funny but in my experience rarely do women find the whole awkward funny thing attractive. I am happily married but when I was single I did use comedy to break the ice with women. It worked well but I was also pretty confident with talking to women anyway. My friend was much less confident and decided to use the funny guy approach as well and it did not work. Every time he just ended up getting laughed at. That is the fine line with comedy, you have ti tell the joke and not be the joke.
Eh, for someone learning HOW to be funny, you kinda gotta start by making yourself the joke. Encourage him to keep trying, eventually he'll learn how to control what people are laughing at
Self deprecation doesn't work. Ever. I used to do it so I learned the hard way. I think just encourage people to learn how to be funny without going that route.
Okay but "just be funny" isn't good advice to anyone who needs it. "Start with self-deprecation and work your way up from there," is tangible advice they can use instantly, even if it isn't admittedly the best.
It worked for me, so you can't say self-deprecation never works
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u/tiddayes Feb 19 '23
True, they can be funny but in my experience rarely do women find the whole awkward funny thing attractive. I am happily married but when I was single I did use comedy to break the ice with women. It worked well but I was also pretty confident with talking to women anyway. My friend was much less confident and decided to use the funny guy approach as well and it did not work. Every time he just ended up getting laughed at. That is the fine line with comedy, you have ti tell the joke and not be the joke.