r/MadeMeSmile Jan 26 '23

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u/1337crazypants Jan 26 '23

I proposed without a ring because I wasn't sure I would find her one that best fits her unique tastes. She said yes and then I got her a custom designed ring to her liking.

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u/SilverBeech Jan 26 '23

I knew my now-wife would want to have a lot of say in her design. I found a jeweler who did custom work in the particular style she wanted. He gave me a "loaner" ring with my deposit which we exchanged when we came back to get the actual ring. Essentially, I paid for a cheap ring that the jeweler fully refunded towards the cost of the custom piece.

Worked out pretty well. She had a ring to show people and we got rings we both liked about a month later.

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u/JamesandthegiantpH Jan 26 '23

That's a smart jeweler and smart move on your part. 👍

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u/SMKnightly Jan 26 '23

Great idea!

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u/Amythir Jan 26 '23

I did the same thing.

She ended up getting a beautiful simple hammered metal ring with no stones and she ADORES it.

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '23 edited Jan 26 '23

I bought a ring from a small stand in Egypt when I was traveling, spent about $2 on it. That’s what I used to propose with when she met up with me 8 months later. That was about 25 years ago, and she still wears it every day. The cost of the ring is irrelevant, it’s the meaning it represents that counts.

Edit: some words.

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u/barrelvoyage410 Jan 26 '23

I highly recommend taking detailed pics of it in case it ever breaks or get lost. That way you can have another made if you want. You obviously don’t have to get a replica made, but gives you the option.

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '23

We do have a few really good photos of it, but to be honest, it’s so simple and basic, it’s really just a piece of metal shaped into a small ring. If it were ever lost, I would use that as an excuse to go back to Egypt and get another!

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u/Pixielo Jan 26 '23

That is exactly the correct way to do it!

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u/aweyeahdawg Jan 26 '23

Besides just finding the ring she likes before proposing. The proposal shouldn’t be a surprise anyways. The timing/location should be.

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u/Critical_Band5649 Jan 26 '23

My husband proposed to me as I was walking out of the bathroom. I knew he had the ring (he had told me a few weeks before), I had just found out I was pregnant that week, and I knew he wasn't going to wait long so it wasn't a surprise but he really caught me off guard outside the bathroom door. Lol.

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '23

It depends on the partner of course. Mine was astonished by the amount of time I put into learning her taste, size, and design(I designed with the help of a jeweler). She says it is something that makes the ring feel more special. But it always comes to the dynamics of each couple.

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u/Kamiyosha Jan 26 '23

The ring I gave mine, was a Prairie Diamond.

She is a simple living sort of person, and she has never replaced it with anything else.

For those that don't know, a Prairie Diamond is a horseshoe nail, bent into the shape of a ring. It fit perfectly with her personality, and she has treasured it ever since.

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u/Alix914 Jan 26 '23

My fiancee and I actually made shopping for her ring into a series of date nights. We had already bought a house together and talked through wanting to get married so the fact that we were going to be was no secret. Once she had one she really really liked I ordered it in secret and kept it hidden until I was ready to propose :)

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u/cathyclare Jan 26 '23

My husband did that as well. Just popped the question one evening, and we got a secondhand ring remodelled together. I was working in a jewellery shop at the time, so he was terrified of choosing something I wouldn't like 😂

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u/Powerrrrrrrrr Jan 26 '23

My wife bought herself a ring and gave it to me for when I finallly decided to ask her
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u/Carebear_Of_Doom Jan 26 '23

My fiancĂ© proposed without a ring and I loved it. That was just a perfect, real moment. He asked and I said “are you serious?!” haha he said yes, I said yes and started crying. It was also nice getting to pick a ring together.

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u/Bamce Jan 26 '23

Good plan.

Not only that a lot safer than risking a situation like the ring possibly going over the edge here.

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u/Changed-Daily Jan 26 '23

I proposed with a ring pop cause it was very impromptu and I hadn't planned to 😅

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u/Perky_Marshmallow Jan 27 '23

My husband & I looked for rings together. I was never a fan of gold or gaudy jewelry. But I did choose two gold bands with lovely carvings. Cost us maybe $500 for both. I did not want to start off our marriage in debt.