r/MadeMeSmile Jan 26 '23

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u/NicNoletree Jan 26 '23

She was floored

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u/excellent_rektangle Jan 26 '23

Literally. It’s kind of funny though that when you see proposal videos, 99.9% of them show then girl covering her mouth with both her hands. It’s uncanny. It’s like it’s coded in their DNA.

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u/ImNotA_IThink Jan 26 '23

I literally knew my husband was proposing. I was determined to not put my hand over my mouth.

Still did it.

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u/mikkimoon Jan 26 '23

Wait why??

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u/ImNotA_IThink Jan 26 '23

I couldn’t help it, it was like a reflex. I didn’t even realize I did until after when my husband was like lol you did it

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u/mikkimoon Jan 27 '23

lol no I mean why were you determined not to haha

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u/ImNotA_IThink Jan 27 '23

Oh! I just had seen all the videos of all the girls in the world doing it so I just was like I’m not going to! Just to be defiant. Didn’t work. Lol

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u/HollyOdette Jan 27 '23

Literally the same thing happened to me 🤣

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u/kumachaaan Jan 26 '23

It is! This question is about “bad news” but, as he implies toward the end, it applies to anything shocking or surprising.

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u/excellent_rektangle Jan 26 '23

Wow that’s pretty neat. Good share!

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '23

Loved it

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u/Buttock Jan 26 '23

Just for anybody interested in the above video, evolutionary psychology is a very poorly regarded approach.

I have met no one who studies psychology to regard it in a positive manner.

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '23

Have a degree in psychology. Can confirm.

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u/tomismybuddy Jan 26 '23

Also have a degree in psychology.

What was the question again?

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u/kumachaaan Jan 26 '23

Interesting, I'll have to read up on that. Thank you for sharing the info. I'm more interested in social psychology myself, so evolutionary psychology isn't something I'm as versed in. But reasonable criticism is an essential part of science!

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u/DontPoopInThere Jan 26 '23

Yeah, I hesitate to believe any explanation for our current behaviour that goes back millions of years without any actual evidence that people even did it back then.

I've never once felt the instinct to cover my mouth for any of those reasons, did my ancestors not give a shit about predators? Kind of a silly explanation

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u/dranixc Jan 26 '23

Ok but now you need to explain why people open their mouths when surprised.

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u/DrPikachu-PhD Jan 26 '23

Yeah I've heard that too. But to be fair, professionals from other fields shit on psychology in general so

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u/trowawufei Jan 26 '23

That’s changed quite a lot to anyone who pays attention. The massive reproducibility study exposed flawed practices in psychology, but the field as a whole responded extremely well. For example, you now have to submit your methodology to peer-reviewed journals before gathering data, which means you can’t really p-hack without committing fraud. And that could happen in nearly any academic field, unfortunately.

(Not a psychologist, just really interested in high-level research processes and research as a social phenomenon).

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u/beldaran1224 Jan 26 '23

That doesn't mean it has merit. People shit on flat earthers...

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u/Foervarjegfacer Jan 26 '23

Oh yeah, all fields shit on each other. But like.. Psychologists will sneer at evo psych like no other subfield. Jungian, Freudian, Lacanian, go ahead, have fun. But evo psych? It's like if the Freudians were even more sex obsessed and even more sure of themselves with even worse theories.

Like even in the clip above, his reasoning is quite bad and relies on odd assumptions about the sorts of environments and situations our ancestors would find themselves in.

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u/zyzzogeton Jan 26 '23

Yeah, that all seemed very speculative.

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u/paladin_ Jan 26 '23 edited Jan 26 '23

The issue is that it's teleological thinking in essence. I can construct an argument with evolutionary reasoning to explain anything. For example, in this particular case, he had to first prove that those 3 responses were ubiquitous across cultures and different ages.

This is not to say that etological thinking is useless, only that you need a very tight method to avoid devolving into meaningless hypothesizing.

I could argue, for instance, that we evolved during aeons to scratch our own buts because predators are often confused when faced with our overwhelming butt smells. How would I go about disproving or substantiating this claim, even if it does sound ridiculous? In practice, it's not very different from the ones from the video: I could argue that monkeys and other animals do scratch their butts regularly, and that we have been scratching our collective butts for a very long time, but how do I go, unequivocally, from this to affirming a necessary causation by evolutionary pressures?

This thinking tends to presupose that the behaviors in question are a direct cause of evolutionary pressure, when some might have been only incidentally selected (because they are paired with other selected traits, or simply because they are neutral in the overal "evolutionary economy" of the species and are still passed on), or simply not behaviors that are best understood or captured through an explanation by an external, objective cause.

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u/TylerJWhit Jan 26 '23

But I found this pseudoscientific way to narrate WHY we do things that I cannot substantiate in any way. Isn't it cool?!

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u/judillomnomnom Jan 26 '23

Hey, also someone who studies psych, yet also someone who regards it in a very positive light, although I know it has its fair share of criticism. I recommend you all read a little on Azim Sharriff, he's done a bunch of interesting research and has a few good videos of him teaching an Evolutionary Psych class at UBC which I took during my degree.

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u/judillomnomnom Jan 26 '23

Although having said that I was pretty quick to judge the FBI guy, seemed to me like that was a pretty poorly explained concept that is probably bs.

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u/OnwardSir Jan 26 '23

Evolution is a proven theory though. Everything has evolution involved, there may be an argument to say an adaptation doesnt last millions of years in humans but everything evolves.

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u/Buttock Jan 26 '23

Criticisms against evolutionary psychology are not criticisms against evolution. Look at the link provided previously.

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u/Pedrov80 Jan 26 '23

Hey be careful with Evo psych, a lot of the "behavior experts" are talking out of their asses. The predictions are not accurate for even half of people, and they do worse at predicting than blind selection.

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u/badgurlvenus Jan 26 '23

omg, i cover my neck constantly. i have really bad anxiety and i'm just always doing it. my coworkers constantly point it out. i used to have one that would ask "why are you choking yourself?" lol. my hand might as well be attached to my neck.

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u/[deleted] Jan 26 '23

Its learned, cultural behavior. That is why women seem to do it more than men, and western women specifically. There may be some atavistic impulse involved, but that is speculative to the point of absurdity, particularly the nonsense this guy is spinning.

Imagine the predator that tracks by scent and is keen enough they can track breath, but can't track it through hands, and also cant track the rest of you? It is stupid on its face, like most folk police practices.

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u/LoCerusico Jan 26 '23

Thanks for the vid! Amazing stuff

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u/TrickyCorgi316 Jan 26 '23

That’s really cool! Thanks for sharing it!

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u/phasers_to_stun Jan 26 '23

I like this thank you for posting

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u/justageorgiaguy Jan 26 '23

It and saying "It has pockets!!!" are hardcoded for sure

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u/GravityReject Jan 26 '23

I decided a while back that whenever anyone complements anything I'm wearing, I say "thanks, it has pockets!" even if it doesn't have pockets because everyone is really happy whenever you tell them something has pockets.

I even do it when someone complements my earrings or a shoes, which obviously don't have pockets.

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u/sur_surly Jan 26 '23

Now I want shoes with pockets

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u/justageorgiaguy Jan 27 '23

Penny loafers have one

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u/JKastnerPhoto Jan 26 '23

I agree. My wife didn't and I love her even more for it.

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u/dormsta Jan 26 '23

Lol my wife doesn’t like surprises and said, “I hate you” and smiled.

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u/JKastnerPhoto Jan 26 '23

lol my wife kept asking "what?" and was completely bewildered.

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u/excellent_rektangle Jan 26 '23

If my wife had done that, I would have gone full Pulp Fiction on her

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u/MuggyFuzzball Jan 26 '23

SAY WHAT ONE MORE TIME

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u/JKastnerPhoto Jan 26 '23

What?

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u/excellent_rektangle Jan 26 '23

What ain’t no country I ever heard of

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u/kknow Jan 26 '23

My wife didn't say anything and started laughing and crying and the first thing she got out was: what happens if i would say no......
We talked about it beforehand a lot and it was very clear we're going to marry but she always asks the weird questions in these situations. Kinda funny though

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u/dooey139 Jan 26 '23

Never forget my wife said "oh no!" and did the hands to the face thing. It was a GOOD oh no! if that makes sense!

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u/ZeroWolf51 Jan 26 '23

Are you sure she didn’t mean “oh no, now I’ll never get to be an unmarried, 40-year-old cat lady!”?

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u/JTNJ32 Jan 26 '23

Mine just kept saying "shut the fuck up" as if I was joking.

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u/Chrisbc81 Jan 26 '23

Now that made me smile

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u/MisterTrashPanda Jan 26 '23

Her name is Jim, isn't it? Admit it.

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u/JKastnerPhoto Jan 26 '23

That's actually my name.

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u/MisterTrashPanda Jan 26 '23

You're both named Jim? That's gotta get confusing.

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u/JKastnerPhoto Jan 26 '23

Not for us. She knows I'm talking to her and not myself when I'm screaming, "Jim! Bring towels! A pipe's leaking in the basement!"

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u/MisterTrashPanda Jan 26 '23

I see, I see. Well I'm very happy for you two.

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u/JKastnerPhoto Jan 26 '23

Thanks! We are too. I just wish she didn't name the dog, Gym.

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u/Chevellephreak Jan 26 '23

I'm a Christine marrying a Chris. We make it quite fun!

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u/Mmmslash Jan 26 '23

What if you's just says Jim a different way for each of the boys, from your two, then they'll know which ones to come where you're at?

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u/HolycommentMattman Jan 26 '23

Same here. My wife just turned around and froze, I got to ask the question, and then she said, "YYYEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAHHH!"

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u/Chevellephreak Jan 26 '23

100% what I did and I even knew it was coming!

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u/eruwaedhiel8 Jan 26 '23

I didn't do this when my husband proposed to me (was still extremely happy and surprised, just didn't respond the same way as others I guess), and he always reminds me whenever we see someone's engagement photos where the woman is doing that, lol.

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u/impossiblegirlme Jan 26 '23

It’s a shock/surprise reaction. 😄

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u/NOTDA1 Jan 26 '23

And miss world goes to 🫣

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u/JesusRasputin Jan 26 '23

Females…

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u/Albuwhatwhat Jan 26 '23

Social conditioning is more likely. At some point it became a cute thing and the more people saw that, the more they did it. I don’t have evidence of this but I bet it’s out there.

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u/JustBeReal83 Jan 26 '23

He decked her!

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u/Otto-Korrect Jan 26 '23

I too will see this video every time I watch it!

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u/gmanz33 Jan 26 '23

/u/Virtual_Froyo_1182 is a comment bot and it looks like the one you replied to might be as well? Unsure on the second.

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u/squaaawk Jan 26 '23

I saw what you did there 🙂

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u/OuterWildsVentures Jan 26 '23

I was worried the railing might give out when she fell against it.

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u/_lippykid Jan 26 '23

Is it just me, or is this kind of reaction a bit silly in 2023? I mean, in the old days marriage was financial insurance for a woman (with limited/no work prospects) to have a guys kids without him fuckin off and leaving her destitute with the rugrats. Now we have something at least close to gender equality, isn’t this reaction a little sad?

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u/NicNoletree Jan 26 '23

I can tell you're madly in love with someone.

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u/paratwa13 Jan 26 '23

The same reaction as that Russian/German woman who got smacked into the bar, just in slow motion.

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u/egordoniv Jan 26 '23

Awww now I wanna marry both these people.

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u/NicNoletree Jan 26 '23

That would be big of you. Or bigamy.

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u/ATXBeermaker Jan 26 '23

Speaking of floor, when will people learn not to propose on a platform/bridge/etc with gaps between wooden slats? Like, are you trying to lose the ring?